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What does Amputation feel like?
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Friday, June 26, 2020 - 2:14 pm
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It hurts, but at least the person knows where they stand with you. There’s a big difference between ghosting someone and telling them ‘I’m done, I don’t want you in my life anymore” I think it’s important to give people some type of closure before amputating, especially if they didn’t do anything to intentionally hurt you.

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I was in contact with a girl over internet last summer. We chatted and had a calls for 3 months almost every single day, for hours!

She lives in neighbor country but we speak same language which makes things a lot easier for connection. I wanted to meet her. I was really subtle in the first few weeks but i eventually i opened up and showed a clear desire to meet her.

And then she disappeared (not a day or couple of days after but week or two when i said i want to see her).

I didn’t see that coming. The most confusing part about this was she left me a morning message on a break at work (it was almost like routine and i loved it, every time she had a break at job she would text me in the morning). Absolutely nothing unusual, just like any other day.

That was it. I was left on that message. I had to reply you with this short story because of your “WHY”. It is absolute torture. I have lot of Virgo and i didn’t slept for days thinking about what happened. It took me around 8 months or for feelings to recuperate since that day.

“Why” is definitely the worst that can happen when it comes to amputation. I will never ever do this to nobody in my life. If i have to i’ll give at least reason so nobody feel what i felt after and been through.

  

I have a stellium in Virgo, all personal planets, I know exactly what you mean by losing sleep for days… I will never do this to anyone in my life, like you… I prefer to talk and explain, not leave them in the icy silence.

In my case, I feel so embarrassed that I didn’t get it from the beginning and even wrote these persons asking how they are, what is happening, telling them that I worry, asking if something happened to them… when they actually simply decided to cut me out of their life. After I realized this I felt so silly having worried for them…

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Saturday, June 27, 2020 - 4:44 pm
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It got to the point where i started to feel physically bad. I think i did not sleep well for two weeks. Yes messages without reply! Classic isn’t it? I tested a water just like you with ordinary questions. It was just pointless but i still had a hope. I left a wall of text as the last message.

That was it. Thank god i healed from that. It was brain torture in the worst possible way. Some people are just like that i guess. The worst part of the whole story was that she also enjoyed being in mutual contact. That made whole situation a lot more confusing.

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Monday, June 29, 2020 - 10:51 pm
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Anyone have any solutions?

I find that having Pluto and Moon synastry really amplifies the attachment, making amputation so much more worse, especially for the Pluto person.

This tends to be my situation from time to time, and it’s happening now.

Makes me want to watch the depressing, emotional portions of Charlie Brown.

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In this case, I think Venus/South Node synastry is at work. If I remember correctly, you have a tight conjunction with this person. You’re the Venus person, they’re the south node person. Sorry for bringing that up if I’m off the mark.

I’ve written quite a bit about my experience with this synastry placement on the forum. Usually, I wonder whether I should say anything if I see this placement when reading a chart at the beginning of someone’s relationship, because I see it as an indicator of an intense karmic relationship, but one that is usually short lived. But, I don’t like to be fatalistic, esp for others, so take it for what it’s worth. Since it seems you might struggling, I figured it my be time to share my take. 

I won’t go too into depth here about my past relationship (have talked about it a lot on the forum). I was the Venus person, and in terms of amputation, looking back, I wish I hadn’t fought it so much. Hanging on made it so much more painful. It took me a few years to find my bearings after that, when we’d only known each other a year. Knowing that it was karmic, I know now that we were tying up loose ends. Maybe I owed him something. I wish I hadn’t held on to the possibility of something between us, or even us being friends, and just accepted this karmic reunion for what it was. I didn’t heal until I finally let go and tied all the loose strings for myself (but it took while). 

Whether you’re the amputater or the amputee, I think letting go with grace, strength, and resolve is key. And protecting your energy. Knowing the karmic signatures in my own chart helped too, in terms of a possible “why.”

This is just my experience with Venus/Node synastry that provides a particular perspective, of course. There’s other astrology as you mentioned to describe particulars. Figured I’d mention it in case it might help, as the interaction you describe feels familiar to me. 

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Monday, June 29, 2020 - 11:44 pm
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Thanks.

I recall the Venus/S. Node connection, but never looked into.

Makes sense.

She stated that she had a dream about us having either a past or future relationship, child involved. Never elaborated more.

Oddly enough, I’m in many ways happy it has ended. Due to her traumatic past, she prefers submissive men. She has one employee, whom she’s now dating, and his entire livelihood is dependent upon her. So, she did do me a favor.

I much prefer honesty. I want my balloons popped. Call me masochistic, but it’s a preference. Wearing rose-tinted glasses isn’t my style.

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I know what you mean about looking at things realistically. I’ve seen a lot of people struggle with being realistic versus fulfilling a self fulfilling prophecy, esp when using astrology to provide insight. It’s a tenuous balance, and part of my own ethics to not let the air out of anyone’s sails if I can avoid it. Life tends to do that enough times for us all, anyway, and nothing’s ever perfect regardless of the synastry.

Glad you see the glass half full:)

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That’s understandable.

I just spent some time reading on S. Node aspects and all I can think is “get these connections the fuck away from me.”

The attraction is so damn apparent, but with concrete partnering. I’m over that nonsense.

As Vercua Salt once said, “I want it, and I want it now!”

Ya, the lessons are fine but it would be nice to not have blue balls at the end.

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Oh man, I know what you mean. To be honest, if I know about those connections before hand, I’d probably avoid em in the future. That’s a contentious opinion in astrology, but it’s the truth. I experienced it twice back to back, now that I think about it. Guess I thought that first one was a fluke. Needed that second one to cement my experience I guess lol don’t need to walk through that fire again. 

Seems the lesson could be knowing when one doesn’t need the lesson again (lol). That’s how I’ve taken it. Checking things off the list that I definitely don’t want in a partnership, too. 

Veruca Salt, lol! Hahahahaha…..

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I saw this quote that said: If I cut you off, it’s you who handed me the scissors. That’s how I feel about it.

I was amputated once, by a Leo. It hurt, but I got over it. Mostly, I just felt guilty that something I did hurt them so bad they never wanted to talk to me again. I could see why they felt justified from their perspective and though I would have liked a chance to explain and apologize, I also respect their desire to not want to hear it. 

I have amputated too, but never on the first strike… I always give chances, try to work things out and talk it out, but  sometimes you reach a point where you realize you’re done… done putting effort in when there is no return and when you don’t feel valued. So if my presence means nothing then my absence shouldn’t either. That’s how I justify it to myself and move on. 

I think amputating on the first strike, without giving someone a chance to explain themselves or their feelings is too bad, but if you’ve tried and they keep repeating the pattern, you don’t need to feel bad for saving yourself from further pain. 

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Friday, July 3, 2020 - 5:26 pm
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Thank you soup, for bringing up this topic. Very insightful of you, for wanting to understand it and change!

Hard for me to discuss this personally……may currently be in the process of being amputated, by a friend. Friend is a Scorpio Moon…….a Christian.

How Christian is it to amputate someone?

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Friday, July 3, 2020 - 5:32 pm
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FYI

I believe it is appropriate, to amputate someone if they are abusive, or disrespectful, etc. I have had to do this myself.

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