Thursday, April 10, 2014
Yes, it’s true they didn’t ask to be born. 🙂
How much should your child appreciate what you do?
On the one hand, parents can and do sacrifice for their kids. On the other hand, it’s their responsibility to provide for them.
On the one hand, I think kids should appreciate what their parents do for them. On the other hand, I don’t think they should ever feel like they don’t deserve to be taken care of and have to acknowledge it all the time.
Guilt is terrible for kids, but so is being unappreciated for parents.
Where is the balance?
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Friday, August 21, 2015
The answer will prob vary based on people’s relationships with their own parents.
My parents are great. I appreciate them and it became even more obvious once I had my own kids.
I’m big on reciprocating the love. My parents never have to worry as long as I’m around.
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Tuesday, July 21, 2015
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
I think good parenting involves teaching appreciation and respect for what others do for you (parents and others). So this can be taught by example and it can be taught by writing thank you notes for gifts, by teaching a child to show their appreciation by reciprocating the kindness.
So there is a balance that will be taught and shown.
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Monday, July 16, 2012
Friday, November 1, 2013
My parents were two troubled people with their own problems and I wanted to help them as much as I could. It just came from the heart. I listened to them. My mom taught me so many things and my dad taught me to be an independent woman.
I had a very turbulent childhood, but despite that, they raised me and I respected them for that.
I think a lot of kids should be very happy if they have good parents, but even if they don’t there are still good things to get.
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Monday, June 4, 2012
Oh, they are some troubled souls.
God bless em….they are still two people that you watch and say…I will do the exact opposite of what you are doing. I knew this at 5 years old.
They are still alive. They are kind of like cartoon characters of what they used to be. But, one is pushing 80 and the other is 81. How are you going to be angry at an 80 year old person? Plus, not worth it for my soul.
I owe them respect when I speak to them. And, I owe them thanks for my life because if not for them I would not be here. While they were solid drama which is nothing a child should be in there were times when I knew that they would tear someone limb from limb if they hurt me.
Its surprising what you are thankful for later down the road. I look at the little Sag and she is the spitting image of my dad. You wont get away from them. I look at the little Aries and I see my mothers cheeks….the little Gemini has my fathers nose and my mothers bone structure. Its all there. If not for them those little tiny folks wouldn’t be here. So, I am grateful.
If my mother calls, I will be there as fast as I can drive there. Nothing she has ever done will change that.
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Thursday, February 19, 2009
Odd this should come up as my husband and his family are dealing with an aged mother. They are scrambling.
The answer to the question depends on the individual situation. Love grows love. Contempt grows contempt.
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Friday, May 28, 2010
Alcoholism runs rampant in my Family…. at least my part of the Family Tree. So for me, contempt from the “never know mood Pop is in Today”, and respect for completely turning around his life. He became highly respected in the community. Mom…. always cherish and put her on a pedestal.
Mixed bag overall.
Tuesday, July 21, 2015
Tuesday, August 25, 2015
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
I dont think kids owe their parents anything. I do things for my son because he cant do them for himself.
Appreciation is nice when I get it, but Im fulfilling my duty as a mother, and because I love him. The sacrifices that Ive made, Ive made willingly.
I think the balance is when the parent doesnt begrudge the child for the things they gave up for them and sees that their investment was worthwhile on some level, even if the child doesn’t recognize it.
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