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I read a man who stated he was turning 40 in 27 days.  He said he had a lot of living to do between now and then.

When I was in my 20's, I saw forty as a huge milestone. I guess it marked you as "over the hill"?  I know I am not the only one who felt that way because I had an (Aquarian) friend turning 40 - this was a man. I went to Hallmark, I think it was, and bought a bunch of signs and party stuff that said, "Oh Lordy! Look Who's Forty!"

I didn't think anything of it. This was a phenomenally good looking man. I could have never predicted his reaction in a million years. HE FREAKED! Seriously, he was mad as hell and I just thought, oops!

Is 40 still the magic age? Lower? Higher? What about for you, personally.

I turned 40, easier than I turned 35. Turning 30 was a joy for an obscure reason that's personal to me.

What do you say?

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He said he had a lot of living to do between now and then.

19 sticks out for me. Every year since then has been a milestone! I've been busy living.

I turned 35 last month. I still see 40 as a big milestone... I remember my mom's 40th birthday when I was a kid. I expect there will be a party! heart  

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yeah I would say 35 was a little bit of a doozy, whereas 30 was an exciting time... haven't made it to 40 yet, so we'll see

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It was nothing for me turning 30 or 35… 40 though… I think I’m freaking a little. Yes, it’s no longer “young” and half your life is behind you. And when you think about how quickly 15 years flies by (I was 24 fifteen years ago which doesn’t seem that long ago) and the fact fact that in another 15 years you’ll be turning 55, and that will come just as fast as the last 15 years, it sets in that life really is halfway over. And there is no guarantee you’ll have quality of life past a certain age… I’ve seen people lose their quality of life (independence) as early as 58, 65, 70…. 

So yeah, it hit me like a ton of bricks I’m gonna be 40 in less than a year. Trying not to get depressed about it.

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I’m also starting to wonder if I am doing the right things with my life. I wonder constantly “if I do this (radical change) will I be happier?” “Is anyone honestly ever 100% sure they’ve made the right decisions in life?” I am constantly daring myself. Constantly having what-if moments. Constantly asking myself what is really important in the scheme of life. Reminding myself of what is no longer possible, but also what is, and exactly how much time I have to do certain things. Reflecting on how things change… so quickly. It’s really a lot of pressure, but it’s also kind of exciting to think about what else you have time to do—there’s still a lot, and at the same time, you have more appreciation for it all.

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@la_sirena I think this is right as well. It's around 40, you tend to realize you're infallible. You start to wonder if you might be broken.

In your 20's you don't realize this. That's why I got those obnoxious signs for a 39 year old!

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@la_sirena I think this you're right. This is when life really speeds up.

I had a friend whose (Scorpio) mother told her that life was like driving a car. Your age tells the speed you're driving at. I thought it was interesting.

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@elsa yes, it’s true life speeds up the older you get, which is another scary thing about getting older! Nooo see I’m not even worried about getting wrinkles, or saggy skin or whatever, being unattractive doesn’t bother me in the least compared to losing TIME.

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I just ran across this—a synchronicity (or more likely social media tracking me lol)

But now I wonder.. what is “thinking old” exactly? How can one avoid thinking old? 🤔  

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@la_sirena maybe thinking old is thinking inflexibly, like the cliche that old dogs can’t learn new tricks. Something maybe a little separate from that, however… when I think of the opposite of thinking old, I think of older people I know who laugh at simple things. I’m 34 but a handful of my friends are in their 60s (I’ve got Capricorn so it works). But what they all have in common in they laugh at simple things in life (like the way a duck’s butt waddles when it walks). But they tie in wisdom to it! Like “God wanted to give us some humor today” by showing us the duck’s butt waddles.

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At 30, I got married and began a "grown up" career (real estate). 

By 40, I'd already flipped my life upside down in the throes of midlife crisis.  I was feeling and behaving like a teenager.  I did take successful steps toward a new occupation by attending massage school, tried a swimming lesson (failed miserably), tried a rollerblading lesson (ditto, painfully!), sold shoes to elderly celebrities, discovered hiking and yoga, turned down a date with a man I later realized was a multi-millionaire (oh, well), went to my first ever rock concert (Steely Dan), and lived in a 126 SF studio under a garage built into a hillside overlooking a canyon.  

On my 50th birthday I wandered around Oxford nursing a foolishly broken heart after falling head over heals for an unavailable Englishman.  Much soul-searching ahead.

By my 60th I was on the verge of buying a money pit Victorian house to restore.  Survived that mistake and found myself gratefully settled in something so much better in Florida by the 65th.

I seem to have skidded past my intended Auntie Mame phase on a slippery slope headed directly for Maxine!

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@warped Ahh, Maxine = Goals! Cool

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The most recent, 60. I think of this as the first time I considered my grandmother's age, as a child. 

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