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Someone gave us some venison jalapeno summer sausage.  My husband asked if I wanted to try it. I said, "no, no, no"!

He also brought home some "arthritis remedy", homemade. The gal is the Dominican Republic.

Not sure I'm going to try that either.. and yes I know I'm crazy.  The gal says her family lives to be 120 years old and they all drink it!

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Venison jalepeno sausage sounds wonderful!  And how could a tonic for both arthritis and longevity be anything less than miraculous?  Please get and share the recipe if possible! ❤

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@elsa I’d be curious to know what was in that tonic. Herbalism, especially traditional herbalism is a newer interest of mine. Especially in the Caribbean and American south the slaves that were taken here did a wonderful job in discovering new plants and passing on their oral tradition of natural healing which I feel adds to its healing power. All that positive intent through the generations of hardship, flowing to you to aid in your well-being- that’s powerful! I’d take it as a sacred blessing if someone offered me that.

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@libra-noir I asked him to find out. Hopefully, she'll tell him. I know it has ginger. He was told to take a shot of it and he said it worked!

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@elsa Makes sense- ginger is anti-inflammatory!

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Might be similar to Fire Cider?

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@warped he's not home yet but I tasted it. I think it HSS booze. Hopefully I'll find out.

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Just had a discussion with my mother. She wants to sell her property (I live here). Its unsettling and I’m actually pretty upset about it and feel physically ill. I’m deeply connected to this piece of land on many levels. 

It would be better if she’d just let me process my emotions but I’ve never been allowed to have feelings around her (I have that Scorpio Moon- imagine how much energy I have to stifle. Screaming into pillows was my main form of expression as a teenager). I’m of course not trying to make it harder for her, but I really hope that she just gives me a bit of breathing room for both of our sakes. She says we are in it together but I don’t really trust her although I want to. In any case she doesn’t owe me anything but I would just like to not be blindsided or lied to as was the case in the past. 
  
Overall though it’s just the shifting sand that I’m exhausted from. I’m tired of moving around. Since I was born it’s been upheavals. I would really like to shift that into something more stable. Maybe California is especially hard. 

 

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Could you and your siblings buy it from her, perhaps on a negotiated long term  installment agreement or lease to purchase,  to avoid an increase in taxes but give her enough to live elsewhere?  Or she could have a life estate there If she doesn't actually want to leave.  If not, remind her of the tax repercussions, higher taxes on anything else she buys also.  And your family history there.

I can't even imagine, if either of my parents had ever tried to "not allow" me to do or say anything, I'd have screamed at them so loud and so long they'd have begged for mercy!  But this is not the moment for defiance, only tactful finesse.

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@warped Tactful finesse, yes thank you for mentioning that. I’m feeling more centered about it today so I’ll probably say something nice to her. 

As far as your idea about buying it from her- it’s a good one. I just don’t know if it’s possible financially for any of us. She’s looking to get 1.4 million for it and has two mortgages on it (neither of which are more than it would be to rent a small house here but the property taxes make it expensive monthly. Like almost 9,000 a year and probably only going to go up) and I think she’s just really looking to cash out, buy something smaller and retire. I totally understand her desire as it’s expensive to maintain and she’s tired of working at 66 years old. 

She did say that she would help me with buying something else- kind of an early inheritance so that’s really nice of her. I was looking at little houses in Kentucky and W Virginia last night lol. I don’t think I’d be able to buy here in California- it’s so freakin expensive, as I’m sure you know. It would be nice to find an area that has lots of trees, doesn’t snow (or very little), isn’t depressed economically, is inexpensive, not gentrified, and not racist/intolerant but also not a government that is intrusive. Does that place exist lol? 

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@libra-noir 

That changes everything -- grab it!  But speak to your tax preparer or bank about the tax issues with receiving a lump sum gift. There's a tax free limit per year -- $15k? -- but perhaps a trust could be established to protect you further.

It's all here -- come to northern Florida!  

 

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@warped I know, it could actually be an opportunity. After sleeping on it, I see the positives and the possibilities. I can say a lot about my mom that’s negative but she has always been very generous with me financially if she has it. I will look into a way to avoid being extorted from the government, thank you for reminding me of that. I’ll also look into northern Florida! 

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I have Scorpio Moon and definitely relate to your reaction to your mother selling the house you're living in. Its a gut punch. Life is tough enough and now the rug has been pulled out from under you. I had a similar thing happen to me, but it wasn't my mother. I rented the house I live in now and the guy decided to sell. I was emotionally devastated by the news, but in the end he couldn't sell the house and actually helped me buy it by canceling my rent for a couple of months.

If you could work something out within your family that is the best option.

I can relate to your mom wanting to retire and move to something less maintenance.  I'm a couple of years older and thats what I'm trying to do.  It isn't easy to make big moves.

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@jofrance Yes, housing has been very unstable in the past for me and caused a lot of stress. This property would just be too much for me though on so many levels and I wouldn’t want to attach myself like that to my siblings even if they could do it. I just see that not turning out well for me.

But- if I could find a small two bedroom house (I don’t need fancy shmancy either, I’m pretty low maintenance) and put down a giant down payment or even buy it outright then that would give me the same rooted feeling that staying here would, I think. I do have a deep deep feeling and intention that I will never rent again and that I will attain my own home (I even think I’ll own it outright before too long) it might just be sooner than I thought. 

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@libra-noir Sorry to hear you're experiencing this added instability. Do you know what her motives are for this decision, and do you think, given the current slippery cosmic climate (neptune station, neptune's squares to Sag, and to the nodes - wide but by sign) she might change her mind?

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@sophiab She might! She might not even be able to find a buyer. Money is her motivation- retirement. All her money is tied up in this property and she wants some liquid to retire. I know she doesn’t really want to move either but is thinking about her future which I understand.

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No recipe yet. We're trying but my husband can't translate at the moment, even though he's as fluent in Spanish as he is in English. I don't know what's going on. He's going to try to get her to write it out...

But that is what she gave us. I think it's just a bottle she is using, though.  Like you see marinated peppers.

I don't recognize the vegetable(s) (?) in there but will fish them out and figure it out if nothing is forthcoming.

Meanwhile, she has Tinea Versicolor but doesn't know it.  She's freaking out and I don't blame her. I freaked out too, when I got it in my 20's. I fought it off ever since.

Doctors rarely know what it is. So as she's trying to get this info to me, I am trying to convince her to smear shampoo on her arms.

It's high comedy!

PS, she thought the skin thing was covid, lol.

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On the arthritis potion, apparently it utilizes bark from a tree in the Dominican Republic. She and her sister both travel there... they have a farm there? They make this stuff in batches and store it.

She is going to write down the recipe via her bilingual son. He will also get her the tinea versicolor cure going. I wrote it out for him to translate.

Her husband is ill so she is not traveling but her sister will be bringing some from VA and she's going to give some to me.

Bottom line, I am still trying to gather data!

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Wonder if it's a Cinchona tree? 

 

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@warped probably? He's going to find out. It's bark and ginger... and apparently they make these batches and let them get a good while... like maybe years?  Seriously.  But I'm not sure.

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@elsa Maybe a willow bark? Sounds like it’s a tincture.

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@libra-noir in Spanish it sounds like Hee-neigh-bra.

Edit - we found "ginebra" which is "gin".

So that must be the alcohol component.

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The warm weather is hurting Christmas sales, among other factors of course. But jeez louise, it's in the 70's today.

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@elsa The warm weather isn't stopping me from decorating. Finally started tonight. 

I have noticed that Christmas merch is already marked 50% off in my area. Don't stores usually wait til after Christmas?? Oh wait, we're in a pandemic and supply chain crisis and....oh, never mind. Gotta move that product!

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