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Pet peeves. Moon and Mars signs.
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Libra Noir
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Wednesday, July 11, 2018 - 11:06 am
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Moon and Mars in Scorpio. So many pet peeves. They are all either customer service, driving related or general courtesy. 

-When a cashier doesnt say thank you to me after a purchase. Even worse, if I say thank you first and they say “youre welcome”. Yesterday I had a cashier say “uh huh” to my thank you. 

-When I walk into a store or up to a register and they don’t acknowledge me. I dont like having to say hi first. 

-When I ask where something is and the worker says “Im not sure” or “go ask the person in that department”. Just general notgivingashit about being helpful. 

It seems that this is mostly younger people who are guilty of this. I wish that I didnt have to make a blanket statement but its rare to meet someone under 25 with good customer service skills, even if they are good people. Ive also noticed an attitude that the work of the job (putting items away etc) is more important than the customer. They should be trained that the customer ALWAYS comes first. They are the ones buying stuff and the reason you have a job! Also, it doesnt cost any money and takes little effort to say thank you, and make someone feel valued. I think if I had to sum up why this stuff bothers me so much, is because I feel like our society is turning into one in which people are not valued or acknowledged. 

Driving stuff: 

-basically not knowing stopsign/stoplight laws. The two things that really bug me are hard to explain. But they have to do with right of way. 

-I dont know why but it bugs me, (probably really shows my level if neuroticism) but I hate when someone waves me on when they have the right of way. Just go! And I dont like being told what to do. If you just follow the damn laws everything would flow so smoothly. We have a good system here in the US. Lets use it. 

-Passing on the right. Especially if you havent given me a chance to get over. 

-Honking out of anger. A horn is supposed to be used to prevent an accident. Period. Not to express your personal frustration. 

General courtesy (again, this is about valuing people and their time) 

-Being late without any apology. Constantly running late. Or sending me a text at the meeting time “Im on my way”. That doest ameliorate the fact that you are stealing my time. (This is more with clients. Im more easygoing with friends. But when it comes to my money…..dont mess with my money. And youre messing with my money when youre late or noshow). 

-Just general flakiness and disorganization. 

General: 

-I dont like it when someone tries to “type” me. Like, if I have one view or preference about one thing, then they assume that I have the views and preferences of an entire group that shares one of those. 

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Libra Noir said
It seems that this is mostly younger people who are guilty of this. I wish that I didnt have to make a blanket statement but its rare to meet someone under 25 with good customer service skills, even if they are good people. Ive also noticed an attitude that the work of the job (putting items away etc) is more important than the customer. They should be trained that the customer ALWAYS comes first. They are the ones buying stuff and the reason you have a job! Also, it doesnt cost any money and takes little effort to say thank you, and make someone feel valued. I think if I had to sum up why this stuff bothers me so much, is because I feel like our society is turning into one in which people are not valued or acknowledged. 

I remember one interaction in a local supermarket. They said something about a clubcard and I made a joke, something about big brother, and said I did not have a clubcard. Then I had to get something and come back and the woman asked me again because she explained she “Had to”. Then she ID’d me for non alcoholic beer which is the only time that has happened since I was about 22.

I had to go back home and get my ID of course I wasn’t ID’d the second time.

A friend of mine made a joke about this. He said her attitude was like: WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT CUSTOMER SERVICE YOU’RE JUST THE FUCKING CUSTOMER!!!

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Its like theres a need to please the “corporation” as opposed to the customer. Thats why I dont work for corporations. Putting a corporate policy over the needs of the customer is like some weird conditioning that’s happened. If I had to teach a class on this I would say that, the customer who is buying things is your boss. They are the most important person to please. But that would take some kind of emotional intelligence and awareness, which I fear is being attacked by this kind of corporate slavery. 

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Then she ID’d me for non alcoholic beer which is the only time that has happened since I was about 22.

When I was 17, I got carded at a gas station to buy a lighter.

No cigarettes, no alcohol. Just a lighter. I don’t even think that’s a law?

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Aries Moon, Leo Mars

Perfectionism.

Dithering.

Customers who act superior to employees.

Employees who act like brain-dead zombies because they aren’t paid enough (you have to get paid to have self esteem?)

Whining.

People who can’t make and keep plans.

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Ugh when you say thank you and they go “mm hmm” or “no worries/no problem”.  Or even sometimes nothing. 

Of course it’s no worries, it’s what you’re getting paid to do! Just say thank you. Sheesh .

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Ugh when you say thank you and they go “mm hmm” or “no worries/no problem”.  Or even sometimes nothing. 

Of course it’s no worries, it’s what you’re getting paid to do! Just say thank you. Sheesh .  

I can’t stand that response “no worries” when you say thank you. I’m saying “thank you” for your gesture; I certainly wasn’t worried about it.

It’s a stupid, mindless response. Say “you’re welcome”, “sure!”, “anytime “, or some other clever, appropriate response. My stepson says it all the time. He’s exceedingly thoughtful so I think it’s just a mindless habit. I don’t say anything to him about. It’s just annoying but I am thankful he is a good man.

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I’ve been on both ends of customer service hell, but it also annoys me when I say thank you and they can barely mumble something back…. its just rude.

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I’ve been on both ends of customer service hell, but it also annoys me when I say thank you and they can barely mumble something back…. its just rude.  

I dont even like having to say thank you first. I know my standards are rigid, but Ive worked directly with the public for 20 yrs now and when someone pays me (maybe its because Ive been self employed for like 17yrs and the money goes directly into my hand or bank account), I am GRATEFUL and HUMBLED. I let my clients know in many ways that appreciate them. By smiling when they enter the door. Asking them how they are. Saying thank you so much, it was so nice to see you, when they leave. None of that costs me a dime and it uplifts us both. 

Sorry to go off on this guys! Like I said, I think it points to a general lack of respect and dignity that is pervading our culture. Makes me deeply sad. 

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