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Wednesday, March 11, 2020 - 5:58 pm
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I joined an astrology chat once before I knew that revealing your chart was a requirement. I was like ??????? It was just baffling to me that some people feel entitled to that.

But as was mentioned, I’d rather you do what’s best for you. 

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Buendia said 

But as was mentioned, I’d rather you do what’s best for you. 

  

I like to talk to people from all over the world!

But I think I am the problem, the thing people hate. I don’t know how to be different or better. So all these things converge. I’m discouraged, I guess. And the speed thing is real. I’ve been working on it for months.

I do things for myself and others. Both things have to be present to gain my interest. Why sit here and talk to myself? 

Do I cash it in? It depends on others, clearly.

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Wednesday, March 11, 2020 - 7:39 pm
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You definitely aren’t a problem for me! I can’t thank you enough for the blog and forum and all the contributors. I posted the site all over Reddit the past few months. I think it helped a bit, but I realized I was a little obnoxious with it and slowed down lolol I’ll pick it up again, more reasonably haha. 

But I think I know what you mean. I loved the sheer variety that used to come here. It does seem like people have been pushed, or pushed themselves, so far away from each other, it now seems like it’s almost assumed that we shouldn’t engage with each other if this or that, which is awful… I’m not the greatest conversationalist online but I try to post thoughtfully (albeit long winded!). 

I will say that I’ve gotten the sense that people are self censoring… felt that way for quite awhile, including in myself. I’m still open but I think many are closing themselves off to what appears (often is) as antagonism, sometimes in posts here, but mostly in the world. (People hate the antagonism but then seem to flock to it in social media!).

I don’t think it’s you, though:) I think everyone is so keyed up right now. So many put their ideology before relationships, or it ends up  as a barrier, anyway.

I wish I was a tech person, so I could help with the speed thing :/ maybe there are various ways to cash in and preserve the parts you want? I do know that I want to be here either way. I’m rambling now, but it’s worth it to me, fwiw. 

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That’s why we need places like this! People are losing their ability to relate to each other or communicate with others from all walks of life. 

This place–we’ve had gay, straight, asexual, Christian, atheist, Muslim, conservative, liberal, independent, you name it–and we could chill out together! Sure, people got their hackles once in awhile, but overall we had astrology in common and could easily discuss that. 

As for self-censoring–yep, I’ve done some of that recently. The social climate is extremely dicey at this time. You almost have to wear a suit of armor around your heart because people are mean nowadays. They are MEAN! There, I said it. Here, people are much nicer, cooler and more tolerant, though we have had a shit-stirrer or two. 

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No, absurd.  Why do you think anyone would hate you? What should you do differently or better? How? No.

You’re a Hero to everyone here!

I know nothing about SEO, but I just experimented. As if I didn’t even know astrology forums exist, I searched “astrology advice.” You never came up at all.

If more people know you’re here, more will come and participate. Need to get the “Astro” out there in front of the “Elsa!”

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Thank you but it is not absurd. I get nasty emails as a matter of routine. 

Example, someone will ask me to delete their post because they are upset for some reason. I honor their request.

An hour later, I get an email that says I am a deleting-posts-cunt.

Now that’s not actually true. But if someone already thinks that about me, what good would it do to email them an explanation? 
Do you think they would believe me?
Do I want to get into a dialogue with someone like this? I do not!

My other option is to edit the post and write “deleted by request” or something but if I do that, it draws attention to the person who is upset… I think this would be unkind. It would also be impossible, if it was a case where a thread were deleted.

Point is, I take a lot of abuse over this forum. A LOT. Because any hurt anyone suffers tends to wind up put on me because of something I didn’t or didn’t do.

Cunt for banning.
Cunt for not banning.

So this stuff is real and it’s a constant. And it’s okay. I can absorb it. I have done so for years. There just needs to be a reason, such as, this is a forum people use and enjoy!  Otherwise, it’s pointless.

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That’s horrible!

Perhaps a modification to allow any poster or commenter to delete their own post or comment at any time would remove that issue? If that’s technically possible?

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I would hate to lose the forum. I have been around since its beginning but have not always been in a position to post much. My life prevents it at times. 🙁

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Here’s an idea. I make this forum read-only and cache it making all these pages speedy.

Then I copy this forum to another sub-whatever with a new name. Forum 2020 or maybe go back to boards…

The new forum would not be cached. Btw, this forum is searchable with Google. The site search on the blog side includes the forum. The search here does not because Google search slows the page! Ironic!

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I put Google search back.

You can try it. The forum is definitely indexed.

Another thing, people move on and I don’t mean users. A tech person who helped me in 2009 is probably not available ten years later. I am utterly on my own.

I hope i am communicating okay. Is this forum going to spam? Or can there be discourse? That’s another way to say it. Are people so sensitive they don’t want to mix with un-like-minded people? So the forum creates discord or hurt?

I definitely don’t want part of that.

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I may be from the old days. Like, Cheers, the bar.  You go to the bar to see the regulars and whoever else comes in. There is camaraderie. Everybody values the situation. The experience.

This is what I think may be toast! And coronavirus will make this worse. People limit their interaction.  Anti Jupiter.

This might be Jupiter in Capricorn. Unforgiving which i think is a horrible way to live.

No one is going to a bar called, Unforgiving, or anything like that.

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We need places like this! Fun places where we can have original thoughts.

Because of COVID-19. the media and experts are constantly begging us all to practice “social distancing”. No groups, no social events, no touching, just stay home by yourself and watch Netflix under a blanket with your 1000 rolls of toilet paper. I don’t know about you but that scenario depresses me. So I come here and to Toastmasters for a breath of fresh air. 

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Thursday, March 12, 2020 - 3:58 pm
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You are hilarious!! 😀😀😀

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Wednesday, March 11, 2020 - 8:35 pm
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NotMyCircus is hilarious!

But, she also adds meat and real depth to the forum and conversations. 

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Aww, thanks! heart

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