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Sue Ellen
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We have cancelled all holiday meals with both sides of our family.  We made this decision before Halloween. This week’s increase in Covid numbers is traced back to Halloween. 

My family has readily agreed to this.  My Virgo sister, a pharmacist, suggested it possibly as early as September.  We didn’t meet for her birthday. My siblings and myself live in 4 different areas. Our brother and his wife live in TN where there is no statewide mask mandate. They wear masks. 

My husband’s family all live in the same area, though we live half way across the state from them. We aren’t traveling to their area. 

Our state government set up a covid information website back in March. We follow it and watch the governor’s press conference updates. Currently there are 4 a week. Initially, they were 7 a week.  

Yesterday, our state has asked the holidays to be spent with only immediate family. We made that decision a month earlier. We plan to meet up next year, or as soon as we can be vaccinated. 

As a Capricorn, I feel guilt deeply.  I do not want to think I had encouraged a family gathering in which someone became ill or died. 

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Midara
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My family of origin imploding had already upended holiday plans. But now the few plans we had are up in the air.

The problem is that I seem to be the only one concerned despite our area being a major hotspot with almost no ICU capacity left at local hospitals. My nurse friends are falling apart.

After all that's happened, my family is craving a touch of normalcy so badly, but I worry that we may just be inviting yet more pain and trauma into the family by choosing to downplay the risks. 

I'm exhausted. 

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We're still having a gathering but smaller one. 

My mom insists, she's a Taurus moon and stubborn. Personally I'm not worried about myself, I just worry about my parents since they are older, but they still want to have a gathering with the immediate family and are in good health so... Well make sure no one has any symptoms ahead of coming and just clean well, wash hands, the usual.

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Awhile I read a piece of advice that makes sense (to me) for planning gatherings or visits during COVID:

Let the eldest person or people call the shots. Let them decide if they feel safe meeting, and how to meet. Since thry tend to be more vulnerable physically, and have more wisdom and experience, let them decide what they're comfortable with. I think this takes some of the pressure off.

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Awhile back I read a piece of advice that makes sense (to me) for planning gatherings or visits during COVID:

Let the eldest person or people call the shots. Let them decide if they feel safe meeting, and how to meet. Since thry tend to be more vulnerable physically, and have more wisdom and experience, let them decide what they're comfortable with. I think this takes some of the pressure off.

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@notmycircus

This makes perfect sense. I suppose I am the unofficial matriarch of my birth family. Only my brother’s wife is older.

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Sue Ellen
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My SIL with Lupus now has Covid. This morning, she sent a text to Big Sadge, her brother, my husband. I am really worried because she has Lupus. Since she visited another brother, he will have to quarantine and maybe not be able to travel to help his daughter with her kids when her husband deploys later this month. 

We had already decided to not travel to SIL’s end of the state for a family visit. Now two of the three sibling families cannot have visitors. 

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@sue-ellen Gosh. It looks like in some cases, Covid is calling the shots on holiday gatherings. I'm scared to think about what Christmas will look like at this point. I hope your family comes out of this ok. 

One of my clients has a daughter getting married today. She has no flower girl because a few days ago, flower girl's brother got Covid. So the mom and siblings are quarantined and the mom is getting sick now. If she can't take care of the kids while sick, she's screwed. Their dad is divorced from their mom and she has no help--the family's out of town for at least a week. 

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@sue-ellen

Hope she recovers soon from covid.

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