Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Hi, everyone. I didn’t want to put this in the Random thread and clog it up. To say that these past several months have been confusing, enraging, frustrating, boring…well, I’m not saying anything new. I don’t want to get into a lot of it now. I probably won’t be able to respond much over these next few days, so please forgive me.
I’ve had some powerful, potent images these past couple of weeks. I won’t share all of them. They are sad, complicated, overwhelming, private, yet not really. Today, though, I went upstairs and saw my husband pressing his good white shirt, his pants and jacket laid out on the bed. He blackened and shined his shoes for his mother’s service tomorrow. I fought to keep back the tears and asked him if he wanted a glass of wine or a beer. He said, wine is good. I went downstairs to the bathroom and cried. Then I opened the bottle of wine for us.
My mother-in-law passed away last Wednesday. We were all there, my niece holding one hand, my husband the other. We knew it was coming, though not so fast. An hour before she’d insisted, demanded, that we change her into fresh clothes. So I and two other family members changed her. Then she wasn’t doing well and it went fast.
I’d been with my father when he passed. I am grateful for that. He was in a coma at the end. My mother-in-law was fairly “there” until the end. I feel it was a blessed time for her to go on her own terms and thankfully we were all there that day (it’s some miracle).
I’ve been a member of this family for 20 years. I feel so many things, as many of you can imagine.
She was full of faith, incredibly charitable, she volunteered, she always had a smile, she was game for any travel. We often joked that if anyone even started a sentence with, hey, would you like to go….she’d be at your door in a heartbeat with her suitcase packed. She always loved a party.
Thank you for hearing me now.
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God bless you and your family Allie, may He bring you peace and strength.
It’s so difficult to lose a loved one, even more so when you see those around you suffering. I am sorry for your loss, for the world’s loss of losing such a good soul.
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Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Thank you so much everyone. We had the service on Thursday. Obviously, no one likes to go to a service and I was dreading it a little but it was necessary and it was healing. My husband spoke (only one permitted to speak due to restrictions) and he always does a beautiful job. So moving, yet reminding us that she wanted us to always be happy.
Then we went to my brother-in-law’s for a bbq. And we had a great time because she would have loved it!
We all gathered for a group photo in front of the fireplace, my stepson holding the urn. Phones on delayed, took a couple of pictures.
Later that day it was texted to everyone. Someone noticed that between a couple of people, the picture of my father-in-law on the mantle (he passed in 2011). Clear as if he was physically present, standing there with he. And you know, of course he was ❤️
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