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Vesta
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'Good Enough' days are God-sent. 

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@vesta Yes!

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I woke up with a throbbing left side headache 🤕. Because the stress is obviously getting to me, I decided over a coffee to watch some comedy. Next minute, I found myself in hysterics, laughing out loud. The trouble was, it was only 5am!. Had to tone it down a bit to not wake up anyone. Damn that laugh felt good, so much stress was released.

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Update: We attended the cowboy and cowgirl wedding, and we survived. I'm very proud of how my husband handled the situation with integrity and grace. It was not easy for him.

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Well, I'm still living with the housemate for now. She stays happy as long as we let her have her way. (Whoever read her chart and saw "queen bee" in there--damn straight!)

A couple of times this week she has gotten feisty over small things. She called my phone and left a message, then accused me of making that up when I nicely asked her about it. Next thing you know, she's ready to call her daughters. Heaven help me if I say I'm going to call them, though! Tonight she asked to help her find her swimsuit, even though her daughters packed her clothes already (she and one daughter are traveling this week). I said I could ask her daughter real quick if she packed it. She looked me square in the eye and told me you don't need to do that, "just do what I tell you!!" (Yes, Mother!) She bickered with the other daughter too, so daughter backed off. (Never ever argue with someone who has dementia, even if they're wrong. Just DON'T!)

Anyway, the daughter who was going to cancel the trip changed her mind, since this could be her mom's last trip. I wish them well. I guess we'll see how it goes.

 

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@blue_rose she may live for many years.  Have you seen, Teepa Snow's dementia videos? They are enormously helpful for anyone in a position like yours.

Good luck, regardless. It's certainly trying.

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@elsa No, I haven't seen them. I can give them a look, though. 

 

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@blue_rose Is this your first dementia client?. When I was a manager of a retirement community we had several people with dementia. {Their children would put them in there because 3,000 a month is so much cheaper than 10,000}. I also found the best way to help them was to not argue but go along with "their" world. Now their kids did not always appreciate it when they wanted to call home, ect .but that was not my problem. They were lucky enough to have someone to keep an eye on their parents.

 

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@opalina No, I have plenty of experience working with dementia patients. I just don't any experience LIVING with someone who has dementia. That's where this whole situation gets tricky. Do we share food or keep it separate? Is this my house too, or am I merely a long-term guest here? Should I object to her going through my things, since they're on HER property? What if she thinks one of my belongings is hers and takes it? (She's already done this.)

See, I can leave my clients at work If I'm going through a facility or agency. But if they're at home, it's harder to draw boundaries. 

 

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@blue_rose, I hope you can find a new work situation.  Even if you can learn to live with this situation temporarily, you need a better situation with a future for you.

Work for a company that's going to give you benefits and a good salary.  If you need to get training to get a better job, now's the time to do it while you're still young.  Its very important to think about your later years.

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@blue_rose

You're an employee if you're paid to be there. You're not a guest, it's not your house. Your room should have a lock to which only you have the key. This is vital.

If room "and board" are the terms, you eat what's provided freely. If those aren't the terms, you're responsible for buying your own food. 

Resolving these factors may go a long way in improving the situation.

 

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The days are gradually getting warm enough to venture outside. Thought I’d drink my morning coffee outside. Glad I did, as I discovered a mini nest in one of my hanging basket plants. This token of beauty found in nature, made me feel a sense of hope and joy.

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So cool! I once had a mourning dove nest in a hanging basket plant just beyond the sliding doors to my patio in CA. I saw the eggs, then newly hatched babies being fed by mom or dad, got to watch them grow. Then one day, empty nest!

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I was hoping that in September and the next couple of months more things would start to open up here in NJ, but that hasn't happened.  Any event you would go to outside is still canceled and its just depressing at this point.

I don't want to go to a virtual event.  They are no replacement for the real thing.  We can test for Covid till the cows come home and I'm sure people have it or have had it, but they're not dying from it.  Its time to let people live their lives.

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