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dolce
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I dislike social media in general but I'm on it because it connected me with people over the past year who I needed. Things have settled down here and we're still making events and stuff. So I actually made friends I would never have known if not for social media. But I'd say that 80% of it otherwise has been worthless or harmful to me, yes.

Part of why I stay on is that I need a daily dose/IV drip of words and information, and social media is often where I find it because I don't look at MSM. That's hard for me to give up. But I'll admit, it's not always positive because I have to wade through a ton of crap just to see things that are interesting to me - especially on facebook - and I can't comprehend how much of my life I've wasted spending time on that.

Social media has gifted me some people I've never met, but have messaged with extensively, and come to really care about. They live thousands of miles away from me. i've watched their children grow through pictures. If I deleted my accounts, I'd delete them, unless we found other ways to communicate. And plain emails or texts, well they're just not the same. We often start communicating over some topic we find and then it turns into long conversations. We also check in to see how things are, but tend to "talk" nearly everyday anyway. (I've also got 2 new real life friends I met in very funny ways on Instagram.)

The biggest thing that keeps me sane while still on social media is that I never post anything. I'm susceptible to feeling bad if I don't receive feedback on my communications. I want conversation and communication, I need it, I don't want to shout into the void.  So I don't post. Besides, I can communicate directly with the people I want to share things with anyway.

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I just had someone tell me that Ben was a narcissist and I'm (laughably) stupid because Chiron does not rule charisma.  But it does rule charisma. 

I left the part be.

I told her I have known, Ben, for 30+ years and she had never met him.  But she could tag him with a degrading diagnosis - she must be a genius.

I wasn't even talking to this gal. I have no idea who she is... someone tagged us in a post together.

I really think this is all grinding to a halt. I just wish it would happen.

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@elsa I have noticed a strange phenomenon in FB comments sections lately.

People will tell each other, “Hey I looked at your profile, and it figures! You are a liberal c0mmie sheep.” Or “Of course you’re a MAGAt. Your page says it all”.

Umm, okay, so they basically just admitted to shameless cyberstalking. This is one reason my sister left. The ease of stalking. It’s widespread now. 

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@notmycircus it's gross.

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@notmycircus I've seen a lot of that too.

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I am actually in a fb fight. What is this? 1999?

I have never been in a facebook fight in my life.  This must be a Mercury rx Neptune thing.

She says she has an IQ of 146. 

I gaze upon her in wonder.

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@elsa The drunken fights have begun! Lol (Mercury/Neptune). 🤪😵‍💫 🤼‍♂️

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@notmycircus it is surreal. I wasn't even passing by.

I mean I live in the country. Now I'm supposed to show up on Facebook and fight for myself and defend, Ben, who she believes is a lover I am clinging to?

And then people wonder why "ok boomer" became a thing.

 

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@elsa 

Can’t you just block her? Nobody got time for that ish. That’s what I do. I have a whole list of blocked people from a group I’m in on FB. I block them at the first sign of them showing their ass.

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I opened a business three years ago, and it was going very well till other appeared on the market.

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My husband (Scorpio Sun/Rising Cap Moon) has always detested Facebook- he calls it stupid. He’s never been on the site. 

I don’t hate it per se, but I am starting to understand the way he sees it and I think it’s due to emotional maturity. He has a Cap Moon, so I guess emotionally he grew up faster than most as he hated it in his 20’s...

I look at it differently now as I see a lot of 40+ year olds who are practically begging for attention on there. I just find it sad when people who ought to be emotionally secure post picture after picture of every single thing they do (with mostly them in every picture at that,) smiling cheezily and captioning with with some subtle brag. 
And the I see some of the mid life crisis’ on there and how embarrassing...

It makes me wonder about self-awareness and how some get it and others don’t. 🤔 

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Only on linked for business, that's it.

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