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sk8samurai
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Libraries, live music, art openings, museums, theatre (god I could use the first part of Henry IV right now), cooking lessons with your old lady neighbor...

Maybe the antidote?

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I remember very clearly lying in the grass as a girl looking at the sky...and nothing and nobody was looking back at me.  Sigh, those were the days.

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@carly42  Yes, I've heard they have cameras that are on pixel in size.

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Lately I've noticed that my sister, her husband and Grandma have all left Facebook, without a word. (Grandma's last post was about Zuckerberg taking away our freedoms, so there's that.)

Astrologer Acyuta Bhava is also leaving this month. He had issues with a payment platform (can't remember the name) that is putting astrologers on their hit list. He said something about not liking the effect FB is having on him as well.

Tonight I saw an FB comment, can't remember where I saw it, but someone made the observation that they don't think it's healthy for them to be flooded with so many other people opinions.

THERE IT IS. We are flooded with others' opinions! It is noise! No wonder social media makes people feel like shit. 

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My sister finally told me why she and hubby left. She no longer feels free to express herself freely there and she does lighthearted shit. People take everything seriously and it’s all political and religious stuff. Both those things make her vomit, lol. Plus it’s easy to get all stalker-y on there. Another problem that happened is that she would post pictures from vacations and then family members gave her crap for not visiting them when she and hubby vacationed nearby. (Is there an unspoken rule that people must stop by and visit relatives even if they’re just in the area for other reasons?)

Anyway, she says she’s not heard any politics nor religion since she left, and I think she’s relieved. 

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Listening to Van Morrison this morning and ran across this. Ruthless.
Haha.

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@la_sirena thanks. He's got other songs with a similar flavor.  He was on this early, too.  He came out of the closet, you could say. Quite brave.

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@la_sirena Yeah, I don’t know why we as a society have such a need for other people’s validation. Maybe because most of us live boring lives? Lol The only reason I’m still there is because of my stupid Libra planets at the top of my chart. 

I left Facebook twice, and no one reached out to me except my sister. Oh well. Ignore me then. I’m too busy working 3 jobs anyway while everyone and their brother is vacationing in Florida. 

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Yeah, I asked my sister (Aquarius) why she doesn’t post much and she said, “I don’t need the validation.” That stung a little. 
I live several hundred miles from family which is a big reason I post but I think deep down I must need some sort of validation. Not as much as I used to because it doesn’t hurt my feelings if my posts don’t get a lot of attention, but still, maybe I need to do more self reflection... idk. I think some people have a fear of being insignificant.... part of me may have a fear of being forgotten by my family, being so far away... it’s def not a self-esteem thing for me...anyways, something for me to reflect on.

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@la_sirena I'm a Libra with Saturn in Leo, so yeah, I hear you on the need for the validation thing. It's embarrassing to me, but there it is. I'd like to know that I matter here on some level (including to my own family), otherwise why am I here?? (I've read that Saturn in Leo people will either hog the spotlight--looking at you, Kanye) or avoid it for fear of rejection. They have to learn to BE a light instead of seeking all eyes on them.) Guess I have some reflection to do, too!

ETA: I saw where you mentioned fear of being forgotten by your family. Mine does not talk to me at all except on Facebook. Maybe that's my fault and I need to learn to reach out. There does seem to be this expectation in my extended family that we go to them, not vice versa. My parents found this out the hard way (when they stopped visiting some extended family and almost no one made an effort to come here) and my sister (family members getting offended because she and hubby did not stop by while in the area--these same family members NEVER visit us on their own anyway). 

I think society has reached a point where people don't make an effort anymore to reach out--they just get butthurt because no one reaches out to THEM. (But then everyone's so super busy and now we have YouTubers crying or angry and begging people not to come to their house, it's their sanctuary, blah blah blah. Maybe people just feel safer connecting online instead of actually being face-to-face with each other.)

 

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  1. it’s the same in my fam re:you have to go to them. I agree with you that people seem to feel safer interacting online vs. real life, sadly. Ugh, I don’t see this getting better anytime soon. And now COVID compounded it.  
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maybe I need to do more self reflection... idk. I think some people have a fear of being insignificant...

The day I realized I was insignificant was the day I was freed. I hope this helps someone. It's definitely not the end of the world. 

It's part of what keeps us spellbound. They also use the likes and such to mess with your psyche. It's anything but organic.

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Thank you Elsa, I agree, and was actually reflecting on that after I posted. I think I can be okay with being insignificant. I can definitely see how that could be freeing.

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