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canscocappy
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My 6th house Mercury in Cancer and 5th house Jupiter in Gemini are not that fond of the info overload caused by social media. I have turned most notifications off, and I haven't posted on Facebook and instagram in ages, I'm simply liking stuff, send some birthday wishes or encouraging words where needed. This forum is becoming an oasis and I love it! 

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Sounds like you are using it wisely! 

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@mariar At some point it gets boooooooooooooring. Politics, everybody showing off how fun it is to be on lockdown, productive stuff like that. Even when I'm veeeeeeery bored, like this guy, I can imagine a kajillion more things than anything that is posted on social media. 5 minutes per day is more than enough.

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@canscocappy

Funny video. Smile

It is seriously boring at this stage.  And it all feels so fake. 5 minutes a day is plenty! 

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@mariar Exactly. I prefer spending my time learning about good ole British comedy, like in the video I posted, instead of reading about another debate. Bored, bored, bored, booooooooored! 😛

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there was a book that i thought was interesting from some ivy-league professor... ugh sorry cant remember the name... but he's anti-social media basically.. and says that if you really have to have it for your business or something like this, then to make a schedule for it, to do your work and then that's it. in other words... be professional about it/when using it. 

 

I thought that was helpful advice for those that do advantage from the free-marketing for their businesses etc

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There's actually a book about it? I might look out for it.

Yes, I appreciate some people use it to promote their business and these days maybe it's necessary if you have a business but apart from that it just seems a waste of time. 

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Yeah, it had a place in my life for years, and I've had times when I was too invested in it. I ultimately got rid of it almost 2 years ago (technically, I do still have a LinkedIn but I don't actively use it, Facebook was the main site I used).

I don't regret getting rid of it at all. I'm not going to say my life became perfect all of a sudden, but social media just...isn't real. The people who will talk to you outside of social media, those are the real people in your life and the only ones worth focusing on. Getting off may feel like your world is shrinking, but in a good way where you're getting rid of stuff that didn't really need to be there.

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Good for you! I have closed my accounts now. 

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Like anything else, these venues are only worth what you make of them.  My participation is primarily for information -- local history, events, and community developments, gardening tips, antique identification, DIY ideas, household repair issues, architectural info, genealogy groups, literary groups, Bible study, pet rescue groups, recommendations for and sourcing of local services or products, plus some fun stuff like old movie groups, and keeping up to date with far flung acquaintances.

On the other hand, if you want to play in the global sandbox, take a hint first from Dorothy Parker: "Every morning I brush my teeth and sharpen my tongue."

The only downside is it's an addictive time suck -- I just spent an entire day fielding replies after posting pics in search of the identification and purpose of a ruined stone structure on my property, with no definitive answer!

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@warped I'm like you - my participation is primarily for information, and I do get a lot out of it (with many similar interests to boot! 😊) I definitely consume much more social media than I contribute, and yes it is an addictive time suck! But it’s not just social media… I am addicted to all of the internet. I would like to replace the mind numbing screen time with meditation, so I’m going to work on that.

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I have a FB page under my old business name that I locked down around 6 years ago. One of the reasons was because my cousin posted a picture of me naked in the bath as a 3 yr. old. Really??

Reading this thread made me want to delete it permanently. I'm definitely going to.

It freaks people out that they can't stalk you, or you don't respond to their messages 'instantly'. My batshit ex roommate is a prime example. Deleted her as a friend but she still managed to get through messenger. "Why aren't we friends? I've been leaving messages for months!". Um, ok psycho.

My actual friends have my phone number and actually talk on it.

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@sk8samurai My sister deleted her social media accounts, keeping only her viber and Microsoft teams, both of which she needs for her MSc. Especially now that she's pregnant, this gives her a very welcome peace of mind. I have blocked quite a few people due to their incessant messaging.

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Hope they deleted the picture.  I wouldn't be at all happy about that either! 

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@sk8samurai My late husband used to post ALL the pictures we took of ourselves or others, even the outtakes! His mom used to instruct him not to post his pictures until we’d weeded out the duds—he still put them out there anyway. 🙄 Thankfully he had the good sense to listen to me when he wanted to create a meme that was iffy. There’s a picture of him wearing two party hats on his ears. He wanted to caption it with “Hey Ma, I’m horny!” (referring to the hats sticking out from the sides of his head like pointy horns). His mom and I both said NOOOOOOO! 🤣 Thank God he listened. 

My sister has posted pictures of our parents and extended family, even though Mom has specifically asked her to keep her and Dad off Facebook. In a way, I’m grateful she posted them, because I rarely get the chance to see those pictures anymore. She and her hubby suddenly left Facebook a few weeks or so ago, so those pictures are gone, too. She probably has them on her Ancestry page, which is better IMO. Its much more private.

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It used to bother me until I got out of my own head. I could care less about any drama on there, I just think “too each their own” and scroll past.  I don’t get on it as much anymore or post as much, when I do get on, it is usually to learn stuff in groups I’m in.

Weird how nothing about it bothers me at all anymore.

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