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Has anyone here consciously decided to abandon the pursuit of conventional attractiveness, or concern about this topic? Did it open doors for you? What was the result?

(I'm not talking about getting in shape or having an interest in fashion- I believe those can be separated since you can pursue those things regardless of how you look.)

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Ultimately I'm glad I've always been fat because I've always been that way i.e. there has never been a "thin Chrtotte". 9 pound bb! I never had her so I do not mourn her. That being said, I still shave my pits.

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Just today I shaved my mustache so much I cut myself, I had to cover the tiny cuts with concealer! So like, I guess open wounds are better than a mustache?

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@night_owl13 Hah! And I know what you mean about having nothing to mourn. I've never been at a weight/body type I felt was ideal, even though I'm thinner now than I used to be.

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Venus conjunct Mars in Leo here. As an undergrad, I tried too hard to appeal to the opposite sex, but it didn't work as much as I had hoped for. Then I met my ex and due to the depression that can occur in a relationship that turns sour, I got a lot of weight. In order to gain my physical and mental health back (Sun conj Merc in Cancer 6th house), I decided to change my dietary habits and stuck with it. That's when I met my current partner. As you can see, I did not "try" to become attrractive, I focused on feeling good for myself. It worked!

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@canscocappy Interesting, I also have Venus conjunct Mars in Leo. Focusing on feeling good for myself is definitely more where my mind is at right now.

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Since the plague eliminated my 3 or 4 per week social activities, I figured if no other humans are likely to ever see me other than dog-walking or doing curbside pickup, why bother?  Hair now grown out two-thirds grey, haven't worn a lick of makeup in a year, 90% of my clothes languish unworn.  

Really an eye-opener and liberating despite the occasional nostalgia.

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@warped Nice. I definitely have experimented during this time. Shaved my head completely a few times, which I never had done before.

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I always try to look nice even if I'm not going anywhere.  Its my Libra rising.  Most of my wardrobe now is sweat pants and a top and sneakers, and most of it is old and worn, but I make the best of it.  

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@jofrance I'm a Taurus rising. I think about how I come across, but tend to dress comfortably/casually most of the time.

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