"We've all been cheated at some point..."
I was at the Honda dealership today. Last week I found I'd been had, by a private party I bought my car from. It's pretty serious. 10K, never mind the headache. Add disgust on top of that - the seller was (is) a deacon in the Catholic church.
I've got a big problem now; I was discussing it with the service manager. He said something, striking.
"We've all been cheated at some point. We know how it feels. We're going to want to help you best we can because it hurts when someone cheats you. It doesn't feel good at all..."
I liked hearing this. It's been a long time since I was cheated in this way; tricked. It hurts your feelings, even though it's irrational. It never occurred to me, this man (and his wife, standing next to him), could be lying.
Someone told me I should turn around and do this so someone else. Sell the car. I said, "no". I would never do someone like this and I can say so for sure...
Because my sister fucked me over on a car like this, when I was in my early 20's. I was trying to help her. I cosigned for her on this car.... she drove it out of town, and abandoned it on the side of the highway. She didn't tell me!
I found out something was up, when the bank came to me as the co-signer. Car payments were 4 months in arrears... she'd never made one! I could not reach her. I had no idea where the car was or she was... I eventually contacted her neighbor who told me the car was on the highway between AZ and New Mexico, she thought. I had to call the highway patrol.
I found the car... had no choice but to tow it back to my little town, Sierra Vista, attached to an Army base. Big bucks.
I took if for repair and this is when I found out the frame was cracked. Junk. This is also when I got hold of my sister.
"Sell it," she said. It's red. It'll sell. Sell it to a stupid GI."
I thought about it for a second, I was like 23 years old. No way. There was just no way I could do that. I wound up taking my paid for car and this car, trading them both in for a POS and a car payment. It took me about a year to catch up. She never apologize.
I am not going to %^&&** someone over with this. I am not going to be the cause of their pain and suffering... might even say anguish. So I was glad to hear what this man said to me. I realized he could be selling me - he was selling me. But he's also right. And I think this story should be told, so the next time you meet someone or see someone who got cheated, or if you're the one who got cheated, you'll have some words that might bring them some comfort.
Have you ever been cheated? How did you feel?
Soooo many times. I don’t think Ive ever not been cheated on a vehicle. I truly think anyone who ever takes out a loan is getting cheated, but that’s another story. But yes, Ive personally been effed over. It feels like grief because it is. Its a loss of innocence, which hurts deeply.
My little motto is “the buck stops here”. Maybe thats a Scorpio or eighth house energy. Maybe its some kind of transmutation process of energy. Or maybe Capricorn? Responsibility, karma.
I think karma might get some of these swindlers, even if way down the line, but prob. not all of them. I personally wouldn't "repay" a swindler by swindling someone else. Not me.
I think wariness is always a good thing till you know more about the person or situation. My merc trine pluto, psychoanalyzes everyone and everything. Be careful who or what you let in. Sometimes *&^ happens anyway.
I should be surprised it doesn't happen more often.
I am surprised when people think I'm stupid for not becoming a perpetrator, myself.
wow you have so much integrity it's so awesome. It's nice and refreshing and a beacon of light to read wonderful virtues.
Yes I've been swindled many times, but I just let it go. I've been swindled by someone who told me they needed 35 bucks and I gave them and they said they will be back to pay me back and I sat there waiting for 2 hours lol it's really quite dumb but I was sitting in front of a store and this guy came up desperate wanting money. And I felt bad, he looked maybe like a pimp lol but not too flashy clothing. But his manipulation and sob story was soooo good. I had the money so why not? if it helped this stranger in a bind and I was back then 16-17 years old and got my first car. lol they probably saw a young teenaged girl in a car and thought well she has money if she can afford a car and buying goodies at a local health food store. lol I think lots of stuff has happened to me over the years but I let it go.
I think integrity and having virtues maybe an earth thing. Most likely Virgo is involved. I always get the feeling virgo is virginal in the way that they must purify and feel good to have virtues. Also Capricorn ...because well responsibility. they can't just jet off somewhere and do bad things because it will come back and haunt them and then the karma is too heavy already.
It's strange but last December/January when the heavy Capricorn stellium was in effect, I wonder if it's karma coming in some way.
I've been swindled too, and I too have always refused to be a perp.
It is simply impossible for me to intentionally and knowingly cause any kind of harm to anybody.
Libra Sun & stellium - honesty, fairness and justice is the core of me
Saturn in Capricorn - responsibility (in aspect to the above)
ETA: In my book of personal moral guidelines, way at the top is "Two wrongs don't make a right."