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Venus in Scorpio: loving someone mentally ill
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Thursday, October 11, 2018 - 9:18 pm
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I know, I know. Some mentally ill people do horrible things because of their sickness. Sometimes it’s more their indirect reaction to their sickness, like frustration, rather than the illness itself. But, anyone ever fell in love with someone who was mentally ill, or had a brain problem? Were they severely mentally ill?

Did you leave? What made you leave? I’m not judging anyone leaving, because even though you know someone is sick, you still have to protect yourself. Did you know someone in your circle who dated someone mentally ill?

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Well, I am mentally ill (bipolar II) and I used to push people away before they get too close because I didn’t want to inflict myself on them. Or if I wasn’t able to help it and we actually start to date, I will surely, eventually act like a passive-aggresive asshole on purpose until they leave me. It was a dark and difficult time in my life but I got and still getting regular professional help. I can say I’m managing my mental health well now. My last relationship since getting help lasted 3 years and we broke up because of differences in personality and beliefs (i’m a sag, she’s a pisces if anyone’s curious) and finally, not because I acted like an asshole to push her away 🙂

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Saturday, October 13, 2018 - 10:37 pm
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Good job keeping your stuff under control.    

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Friday, October 12, 2018 - 12:58 am
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Venus in Scorpio, because it’s accepting the reality (not excusing, or tolerating for all of eternity) of someone’s shadow side, or dark side. Which may include mental illness.

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Well, I am mentally ill (bipolar II) and I used to push people away before they get too close because I didn’t want to inflict myself on them. Or if I wasn’t able to help it and we actually start to date, I will surely, eventually act like a passive-aggresive asshole on purpose until they leave me. It was a dark and difficult time in my life but I got and still getting regular professional help. I can say I’m managing my mental health well now. My last relationship since getting help lasted 3 years and we broke up because of differences in personality and beliefs (i’m a sag, she’s a pisces if anyone’s curious) and finally, not because I acted like an asshole to push her away 🙂  

Real happy for you. Bipolar is such a frustrating and sad condition. Glad you were blessed. Others not so lucky. 

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Hmm I dont know… Venus in Scorpios are pretty tough, suffer no fool types, not the most easygoing though. I would think it takes someone more easygoing to deal with all the ups and downs, but I suppose they are drawn to extremes, and I do understand the shadow acceptance standpoint, being a sign of inner turmoil… Interesting. I have seen Venus in Pisces in this situation. 

Also men w Moon/Pluto or Scorpio Moon seem to attract or get attracted to more difficult or voltatile women, or women who have issues mentally/emotionally. 

My favorite cousin is a Cancer with Moon square Pluto exact. He is a bit afraid of women but I do see why as he gets drawn to more difficult personalities. I have a personality disorder I don’t wish to disclose but to say it is more manageable and hidden, mostly shows in an intimate or very close relationship which is why I have few (Afflicted Moon in 8th house). He is very  tolerant of my mood swings, he has a big heart and he can take a lot. My bf also has a Moon/Pluto and he can deal with it, although he admits its not always easy but he’s also not easily rattled. It was amazing to find someone who could as previous experience with boyfriend with Aquarius Moon and Venus could not.

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One of the people I’m thinking of, has Venus in Scorpio, but also has Pisces rising.

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Not to get off topic, but I have a few Pisces with Venus in Pisces in my family and one of my friends, and I have seen it takes a lot for Pisces to abandon someone, even putting up with all kinds of abuse. They can really love unconditionally, warts and all. Sometimes it’s martyrdom and self-sacrifice taken to the extreme, some might say they are naïve, but they can definitely be very forgiving and tolerant, even to a fault. 

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Agree

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I have Venus in Scorpio. Don’t send me a nut.

I don’t have tolerance for any of it. I wish I had more.

My little sisters is bipolar. In my opinion she uses it to do nothing. I know, its not fair. Its horrible in fact if she is actually bipolar. But, I grew up with her. I don’t believe a second of it.

She went to the doctor and told them she was hearing voices so she could collect SS. This makes me nutty….I am still working like a 20 year old and she is collecting a check and milking my mother for house and car payments and the minute my mother backs off….she starts hearing voices again. eek

I know there are plenty of mentally ill people out there that have an actual real diagnosis. And, its heartbreaking to hear about it and read about it. But, my Venus in Scorpio is not up for the gig. I couldn’t do it.

This may actually make me the weaker person. I realize this.

(On one condition. My children. That is a no matter what deal there) Romantic. NO…I would be running at the first mention of it.

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Saturday, October 13, 2018 - 9:49 pm
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I don’t see it as ‘weak, or ‘strong’. Even the most patient person needs to look after themselves after awhile, even if ‘after awhile’ is 15 years later.

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Saturday, October 13, 2018 - 10:26 pm
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“Mentally ill” (severely) is very broad. As broad as “physically ill” (severely).

If someone’s (severe) illness (mental or physical) was affecting my life, would I leave?

I have, yes.

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It’s broad, because you would have to know the person, and know their personality. Some things are so out there it’s obviously their illness. Some things you would have to know the person by heart. It’s very specific, and complicated. Which adds more annoyance, and pain, for the person who is not unbalanced, in the relationship. Which is why I don’t blame anyone for leaving, especially after years. People can only take so much!

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I think age matters as well. I would and did put up with a lot when I was younger that I would not be tolerant of at all now. 

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