venus in scorpio friend- not sure if i should continue the friendship
i have been friends with this person for almost 10 years now. We met during some projects and we remained friends.
I had some weird issues with her in the past as i thought she was not frank and honest. Even not towards me but towards other people especially when it comes to money. I saw her weird and shadowy side but to me she remained friendly ( as she would not let me go?).
I have some doubts if i need to be close friends with her or to remain at some distance because sometimes i think she is too concerned about herself, very selfish. SHe told me she likes problematic people, not nice because nice for her is boring and too ´plain´. She likes to dig deep into people and she likes to get to know people´s sadow side as well as problematic, toxic side.
Im not that ´into´ people´s personalities because it could cause chaos and energy loss to my mind. I know that when i dig deep i lose myself in this and my energy is gone. I prefer to go for a run or just stay in silence at the computer than to talk about other people´s situations, comparing everything to her situation...
Whenever i meet with her she digs deep in everything. For me she is not happy even though she seems like a person who works hard and does many things. SHe has this deep grief to the world about some money, personal and family situations.
In the past we would discuss those things and i would cheer her up but the more we meet up she always ends up with this hard, difficult topics , about the world, toxic things and world unfairness. She has this deep grief and sadness in her, whenevr i ask her about maybe she would find a bf or someone she tells me she is ´finished´. Sometimes i even cant cheer her up because i would be ´nice´ and ´funny´ and i would see the world in light colors and for her it would be very naive and childish....
Right now i have this complicated emotions about that friendship because whenever we meet i feel overwhelmed and worn out of emotions by digging so deep in the world dark aspects and other people and money and etc. With her there is no ´light´ and ´funny talk´.
I dont know what to do because i like her but sometimes i think its ´too deep´.
When i see her chart now she has venus in scorpio. I had a sag friend in the past that had venus in scorpio but i left her many years ago because it was too much... I see she has this placement as well.
Maybe its me who connects with venus in scorpio people unconciously? Or maybe those people feel that i am an open book when i am a good friend and they dig deep?
Maybe its a pattern for me ? What do you suggest?
Her natal chart is proper because last time we met she told me her birth time. She is Saggitarius i am an Aries
thank you all for the answer
Personally, I would stick with her.
For one thing, you have ten years invested. But also, you have a lot of Capricorn and this seems a control thing to me... also judging.
Your Aquarius isn't really like that. It would keep her as a unit in your menagerie.
Also, if something dark happens to you, who are you to call? Venus Pluto in Scorpio, maybe.
I'm not you but to me, there is no debate here. People who will stick with you for ten years don't grow on trees.
venus in scorpio can be some intense energy. i agree with all of elsa’s points, though. is it possible that this person is not wrong for the way she lives or thinks, but is simply different from you?
her energy may not be compatible with yours, or maybe you need smaller doses of her at a time. also depending on the ages involved you may have grown apart. but if that’s the case, recognize that for what it is and recognize that your friend’s energy has plenty of value and a place in the world even if that place isn’t next to you. you don’t have to let anyone drain your energy if you don’t want to.