The inability to express feelings.
Dear Elsa Community,
I'm having a lot of trouble with a man who seems incapable of expressing his feelings. We have been flirting for a while. In the beginning, it was all good but it has always been very hard to figure out how he feels about certain things or people around him.
Then all of the sudden, he switched from hot to cold. More than that, the more kind and friendly I am, the more he meets me with coldness, aloofness, and distance. I have given him no reason to treat me so poorly and have always been fair to him (I'm a Libra Rising). He has a moon in Aquarius. Venus (Capricorn) is square Saturn (Libra). Also, Pluto, Saturn, and Mars are all in close conjugation in Libra. (I don't know his time of birth). What is going on here??? I'm about to ignore him completely and play the game back - although I don't really feel like it.
Has something similar ever happened to you? What placements did the person have? Do you know of any other placements that make the chart owner cold or unable to express feelings?
I will be candid... if I felt someone was trying to figure me out and get me to share certain things, I would pull away too. I'm sorry. I don't mean to be rude and I may be triggered but it sounds as if you're wanting to interrogate him. 🙁
His Capricorn (reserved) and Aquarius (detached) might be the source. Particularly Venus(heart connection)/Ascendant(overall lens we look through) in Saturn ruled Cap square Saturn (cool, restriction). Moon (feelings) and Mercury (mind) in Aquarius (likes a very loose rein). Moon is the ruler of his Descendant (relationships).
Hi @roza-shanina, I don't know that I would blame the astrology so much as something about the circumstance has clearly changed. Regardless of what's in his chart, he's likely pulling away for a reason. I recommend giving him some space, as difficult as that may be for you right now. If he still has feelings for you and interest in you, he'll come around. I've been there, and I know it's difficult.
for him having Mars Libra, Cap Venus and Aquarius moon, that really explains ALOT. Air/Earth, Saturnian and Air mars, not very emotional at all. I've witnessed this in other air/earth too, even if they had a water venus, that moon to mars air/earth is really unemotional. It's just how it is. They probably like you anyway, but feel super uncomfortable in how to express because astrologically they grew up /upbringing like that. Isn't the moon for a man explains his mother? He must have had a mother who didnt give him emotional support, but rather made him more reliable to have less emotional support; therefore he doesnt need it as the moon sign gives him sufficient amount of support without it.
my mother is a capricorn moon and i can tell she is rather " cold" but still loving, in that she supports us by doing things actively, and being there for us when we need her. but as far as emotional support, naw its not there. More like reprimanding and upset that we got into that scrape so she would scold us instead of emotionally being loving. But she is loving mother because she would never abandon us and we always had food and shelter and things we needed.