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The inability to express feelings.

Roza Shanina
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Dear Elsa Community,

I'm having a lot of trouble with a man who seems incapable of expressing his feelings. We have been flirting for a while. In the beginning, it was all good but it has always been very hard to figure out how he feels about certain things or people around him. 

Then all of the sudden, he switched from hot to cold. More than that, the more kind and friendly I am, the more he meets me with coldness, aloofness, and distance. I have given him no reason to treat me so poorly and have always been fair to him (I'm a Libra Rising). He has a moon in Aquarius. Venus (Capricorn) is square Saturn (Libra). Also, Pluto, Saturn, and Mars are all in close conjugation in Libra. (I don't know his time of birth). What is going on here??? I'm about to ignore him completely and play the game back - although I don't really feel like it.

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Has something similar ever happened to you? What placements did the person have? Do you know of any other placements that make the chart owner cold or unable to express feelings?

 

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Elsa
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I will be candid... if I felt someone was trying to figure me out and get me to share certain things, I would pull away too. I'm sorry. I don't mean to be rude and I may be triggered but it sounds as if you're wanting to interrogate him. 🙁

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@elsa Well, it is rude and was clearly not what I've stated in my post. I have never pushed him to share certain things and did not interrogate him either. I did observe his behavior and was shocked when his flirtatious behavior turned suddenly cold while I stayed friendly and did not give him any reason for doing so. It's just a feeling (not an interrogation!) I have but he seems very emotionally controlled overall and I simply wonder which placements are responsible for this.

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@roza-shanina I apologize.

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@roza-shanina   Things you said: 

It has always been very hard to figure out how he feels about certain things or people around him. 

He switched from hot to cold

The more kind and friendly I am, the more he meets me with coldness, aloofness, and distance

I have given him no reason to treat me so poorly

I would not give someone that treats me this way the time of day. 

MOON: Your moon sign is one of the most important parts of your astrological profile: it represents your emotional side, your feelings, intuition and memories It is in Aquarius. His Mercury is in Aquarius too. Then, there is the Capricorn Venus. 

I raised and Aquarius moon. 

My Mother has an Aquarius Rising and Moon

My best friend has Aquarius rising

Another best friend is an Aquarius Sun

I am married to an Aquarius rising Aquarius Mercury (Pisces Sun)

They can be aloof when they are not interested in someone, but it doesn't bother me because I know them to be loving and kind.

You said: I'm about to ignore him completely and play the game back

^^ This will never work on an Aquarius or a Capricorn. 

He pulled away for a reason. 

Elsa is not rude. 

  

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@soup I'm an Aquarius IC and have an Aquarius North Node. Having Aries as the most prominent sign in my chart (it's my moon sign too) I do say things exactly as I mean them. I'm not the person who hints things. My three best friends are all Aquarius suns, my cousin and my uncle are Aquarius suns and I thought I was familiar with Aquarius energy. What I take away from your response is that he might not be interested and I will accept that.

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@soup thank you.

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His Capricorn (reserved) and Aquarius (detached) might be the source. Particularly Venus(heart connection)/Ascendant(overall lens we look through) in Saturn ruled Cap square Saturn (cool, restriction). Moon (feelings) and Mercury (mind) in Aquarius (likes a very loose rein). Moon is the ruler of his Descendant (relationships). 

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Roza Shanina
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@jana I don't have his exact birth time and had to choose a random time of birth. Sorry if I gave a wrong impression. However, the other things you say make perfect sense!! (Aquarius-Capricorn influence). I've always thought that Capricorn and Capricorn placements have feelings but prefer to hide or have control over them. Does Venus on the south node increase cool tendencies? I'm not so sure about Aquarius / Aquarius moons and emotions.

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@roza-shanina 

Sure, the SN represents our comfort zone. Career, public life are its domain.  It's only enhanced when paired with Venus. Cancer North Node represents what this lifetimes work centers around...family, feelings, home, mothering, etc. Cancer on the descendent is going to find him attracted to Cancer type women comfortable with their feelings. 

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Hi @roza-shanina, I don't know that I would blame the astrology so much as something about the circumstance has clearly changed. Regardless of what's in his chart, he's likely pulling away for a reason. I recommend giving him some space, as difficult as that may be for you right now. If he still has feelings for you and interest in you, he'll come around. I've been there, and I know it's difficult.

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for him having Mars Libra, Cap Venus and Aquarius moon, that really explains ALOT. Air/Earth,  Saturnian and Air mars, not very emotional at all. I've witnessed this in other air/earth too, even if they had a water venus,  that moon to mars air/earth is really unemotional. It's just how it is. They probably like you anyway, but feel super uncomfortable in how to express because astrologically they grew up /upbringing like that. Isn't the moon for a man explains his mother? He must have had a mother who didnt give him emotional support, but rather made him more reliable to have less emotional support; therefore he doesnt need it as the moon sign gives him sufficient amount of support without it. 

my mother is a capricorn moon and i can tell she is rather " cold"  but still loving, in that she supports us by doing things actively, and being there for us when we need her. but as far as emotional support, naw its not there. More like reprimanding and upset that we got into that scrape so she would scold us instead of emotionally being loving. But she is loving mother because she would never abandon us and we always had food and shelter and things we needed. 

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