I was wondering if there was a difference in synastry between friends and lovers. Do you look for aspects between the houses, planets, and rulerships of the houses for each?
If you're talking about friends, what would you say indicates a friendship in synastry charts?
If for lovers and romantic partners, what would that synastry look like?
In my experience yes, big difference. The typical marriage aspects like Sun conjunct moon which astrologers just die for, I found more beneficial in friendships. With lovers, I rarely saw them as lovers with that aspect, they were "just friends". Come to find, I have had more Sun opposing or squaring moon here.
I find that venus-venus aspects were also more prominent with friends but not lovers.
Meanwhile, I find that Pluto aspects and Mars aspects for me are a must have for lovers. I cannot have good sex or get aroused unless we are having a Pluto aspect to inner planets or a Mars aspect, ideally both.
Same with the 7th house. I find my 7th house signs to be boring as lovers and never take them as such, most of the times they are my friends. It is the 5th house energy and sign (Sag for me) that gets me going sexually.
Do those aspects also apply to romantic and life-long partners? And I guess I should have included that in my original post as well.