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Solitude - Do you enjoy it, or do you fear it?
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Monday, April 16, 2018 - 8:28 am
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I know many people who do not like to be alone.

But me personally I enjoy solitude, I feel peace. 

I feel as though being around others drains my energy, and my alone time helps me recharge and I just feel my best when alone

I like socializing, but not too much.

What is your take on solitude? Is it your saving grace or do you not like being alone?

I like doing things alone as well, I also realized once I spent a lot of time on my own I got to know myself better which is very healing.

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I do enjoy it, in fact I need it to survive. I tend to absorb and transmute energies and after a while I start to feel overwhelmed- energetically dirty, and not sure who’s feeling what. Or, why is this my responsibility? This isn’t even my problem. Then I’ll just disappear.

 I do ‘function’ better in a relationship but often that means I’m doing the majority of the work, and sadly get caught up for too long (like years) in this dynamic.

I call ‘it going to ground’ for peace of mind. I do have a few people in my life I exchange excellent energy with but they’re rare. Sometimes I think I just ‘let the wrong ones in’ but it happens in contact with the public too. 

The astrology: Saturn 12th, Moon/Pluto opposition, Cap sun in the 7th, heavy Scorp, Pisces moon.  

  I am very attached to my dog though. He goes with me everywhere. So yes, alone but not lonely.

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Monday, April 16, 2018 - 11:27 am
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Both!

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Elsa said
Both!  

I agree, there needs to be a good balance

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sk8samurai said
I do enjoy it, in fact I need it to survive. I tend to absorb and transmute energies and after a while I start to feel overwhelmed- energetically dirty, and not sure who’s feeling what. Or, why is this my responsibility? This isn’t even my problem. Then I’ll just disappear.

I can wholeheartedly understand this. Its like I absorb so much it just clutters my energy and I have to go sort it out on my own! 

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Love my solitude! But I also love exchanges with people whom I sync with. 

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As an only child, solitude is natural to me.  I enjoy social stuff in a balance, like work dynamics, church coffee hour, groups with common interests/goals, daily interactions in public, friends — all in moderation, fun but never longed for.

I enjoyed being half of a couple when in love, the revved up energy, the invisible script of it, productiveness, focus on the other.  Can wax nostalgic for it occasionally, but don’t miss it anymore. Autonomy is easier, my time is my own.

I adore my dog, try to focus on his best interests.  No need for more.

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I love my solitude. I need it

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I might have to change my username somewhere in the next few years. I don’t want to be a hermit forever. shrug_gif

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I’m good with it. I always have been. I need it, too, because too much people time and chatter and stuff feels overwhelming.

I like people time too to reconnect with friends and turn my attention off myself. But sometimes I feel like a fish out of water so that makes be re-evaluate how I view myself in the world and society.

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I enjoy it and need it,  but not in the extreme. I have a Virgo stellium and planets in the 12th house. However I also have 11th house planets and Libra and Gemini. I need the mental stimulation of interacting with others but I can only Truly recharge and center in solitude. I’m an introvert and pretty sensitive to others moods and energy so I am careful to keep a balance. 

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I indulge in solitude much of the time. Mars in the 12th, and also an only child. I can waste my life away on the computer, same as I used to do with books. In all honesty, I think I should make an effort to be more involved in the real world. But, this is my comfort zone.

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klara said
I indulge in solitude much of the time. Mars in the 12th, and also an only child. I can waste my life away on the computer, same as I used to do with books. In all honesty, I think I should make an effort to be more involved in the real world. But, this is my comfort zone.  

You just described me exactly, including Mars in 12th. I consider it self-indulgent escape from all the chores I avoid, an addiction!

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I love my solitude to just do what I want.  Even if my husband is home, we just pursue our own interests a lot of the time.  I have some close friends and my sisters that I talk to regularly or get together with.  I have a good balance.

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I love it I’m a 12th house person with a 4th house Moon. I get drained.

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