My mom is extremely plutonian. She has her moon, mercury, venus and Uranus conjunct Pluto, all very tightly and all in virgo. My father has his moon square Pluto, also very tightly. My cousin has his moon conjunct Pluto. My uncle has his moon in scorpio. It seems that my family is full of Pluto energy.
I have Sun quincunx Pluto and Moon sextile Pluto. My moon is in the 4th house, so I feel very connected to family problems.
How to deal with plutonic mothers? It's very hard to not feel suffocated by her.
How old are you? Do you live at home?
I just wonder the proximity since you feel suffocated.