Mega Jupiter/Sadge types - do you feel guilty when you over-promise?
or are you even aware of it?
I've got a strong Jupiter flavor to my chart, but I don't feel like I over-promise (or maybe there are ways in which I don't see it?). But, my Taurus/Scorpio keeps me rooted to an extent and I take my integrity/impact on others very seriously. But, I went out with a stellium Sadge guy with Jupiter square his Sadge Sun and the larger-than-life inflation and over-promising were apparent from the get-go. Intuitively a lot of it felt like people-pleasing/telling me what he thought I wanted to hear etc. Ultimately he didn't live up to his word .. so I gracefully bowed out by not reaching out anymore and I haven't heard from him since either.
It made me wonder though if Jupiter-types of this nature recognize over-promising in themselves and feel guilty for not living up to one's word?
Or, is it easy to deflect the guilt by leaving altogether?
Or, if like him having Venus square Saturn, are aspects like this an anchor for you somehow?
Ps, none of this is a judgment. I have my shit too of course 😉
I have Jupiter in the 10th house and I have definitely overpromised at work. But at work, I have learned pretty quickly when it winds up disappointing others. I have to practice restraint and try to be realistic. It's a challenge.
I'm not a mega but I do have to watch it. Yes, I do feel guilty. That's why I watch it and I'm talking, daily. I tell myself, "Do not say it..."
Oh yes. 100%. I am Cancer rising-Moon in Sadge-trine Jupiter in the 9th. Does that make me mega enough??? I have Saturn and Uranus in Sadge too. I carry at least a little bit of guilt, if not a lot-a-bit of guilt, for every single thing that I have failed to deliver. Including things that were broken promises to myself. I am working on forgiving myself for doing this, because the guilt doesn’t help me. I wish I didn’t do it, and I try my best to refrain from doing it, but I’m bad... any tips or tricks in this arena would be greatly appreciated.
It is very compassionate of you to think of how this guy might be hurting, instead of focusing only on how he mistreated you. How cool that you can walk away not-empty-handed!
yeah, I guess I was incorrect in saying I don't break promises- because I def have to myself. But, with others, I try my best to uphold my word and if it appears I can't I try to communicate it as a means of integrity. But, I'm sure there are ways my mighty thinking is missing where I too have failed a promise.
And thank you (re him). I am not sure I was thinking of him as hurting. I don't really know what's going on with him to be honest, although him hurting was a possibility I considered. But, I also considered all possibilities and therefore decided to just drop the thinking on it altogether because only he knows the truth so what good does it do. But, perhaps not taking it personally (not focusing on the mistreatment like you said) as best I could was compassionate.. so I'll take the compliment thanks.
I guess I just said “hurting” for the sake of getting my thought out in a response... although I do think there’s some connection between guilt and hurt. I just think it’s great that you are considering his feelings at all, and with a sense of depth - and yes, exactly - not taking things personally. It’s so valuable to be able to think that way. @belladonna