I feel I have similar experiences to you with feeling people’s emotions.. but not discussing it with them.
I agree with you on Cancers. I don’t believe they are very empathetic. The ones i know are emotional on the outside and hurt easily but not concerned with other people’s emotional state at all.
However the more I dig into deep astrology I learn our Sun sign is not as relevant as I once thought. Being a Gemini sun & rising I cannot get out of my head & all my other Pluto/north node placements do not help. In my situation my sun sign amplifies my emphathetic feelings due to not being able to get away from it. literally just need to get out of my head & for some reason meditating hasn’t helped me do that. It makes me more in my head.one month of meditating daily & I have yet to be able to get out of my head & get rid of feeling extremely concerned with others current trauma. I’m not suicidal but I could see how people get to that place. After soo much effort & energy to stop being in my head it gets tiring when you’ve gotten nowhere. It’s exhausting to say the least. & I do crave connecting with others deeply .. especially the ones who have intense energy but refuse to open up.
I definitely agree with you on many points- Cancer is much more sensitive in-of-itself (like the insides of a crab) and therefore more emotionally charged and emotionally turbulent whereas Pisces is less internally sensitive but more sensitive to outside stimuli (like fish in water- the condition of the water will affect the health of the fish)- making them absorb others emotions and step into their shoes- empathy. So I completely agree with you that Cancer is generally more focused on their emotions and extremely sympathetic but Pisces is much more of an empath.
However it’s wrong to suggest that Cancer doesn’t have any empathy whatsoever. It’s more that Cancers empathy is focused on those they have formed attachments to. Cancer is the sign of the mother and the maternal instinct. A mother isn’t just concerned for her own emotions, she sacrifices so much to see her children thrive. When Cancer cares deeply about someone they will step out of their emotional comfort zone and give their all to the person they love, sacrificing their needs for the sake of another. Cancer responds to vulnerability- if you open up to them they will open up to you and will begin to “feel-into-you." Pisces (who is a complete empath) will do this for a stranger- something Cancer is not willing to do, they must know the person pretty well first- though, again, they will be very sympathetic. So Cancer’s empathy is more localised, Pisces empathy is more universal.
You can’t necessarily apply this to individuals though, the whole chart obviously has to be taken into account. Some Pisces have no empathy whatsoever because the rest of their charts don't support it whereas some Cancers (like my generation) have Neptune oppositions making them very open to "universal" empathy- so it’s all relative.
Using the definition in the original post, Id say that I might be but that many women are. I used to be sure that I was, but not so sure anymore. The definitions vary wildy so its hard for me to get a real grasp on exactly what it is.
I think I was able to tap into something for a while, but realized that most people dont feel very good, and it was bringing me down and doing nothing for them. Nowadays, I have more blocks up and I think Im healthier for it.
Definitely energetically sensitive though. Thats more about sensing someones frequency than emotions though. It doesnt feel as “tight” as emotions. Also definitely a highly sensitive person (HSP).
I experienced an 'opening' of my heart chakra while having Reiki done one time and I experienced proper empathy at that moment from a teacher that was a genuine empath. Although, I saw little indication of that when I interacted with her she would tell stories of how she had struggled to control it.
This is how I define what empathy practically is and isn't. I do experience incredibly strong psychic tendencies that indicate things about others. I.e. a problem in a persons decision making process is one example. These can be a nuisance if there is nothing I can do with the information. These are more like intuitive dreams and others energy taken and distilled for its wisdom. What I experienced when the Reiki woman opened my heart chakra was an immersion into what others are "feeling". I remember one old guy I will never forget. I walked past him and the guy was so incredibly angry I was just exhausted in those three seconds it took. A really bizarre experience.
Clearly there should be some sort of test to show a real empath from someone that likes to believe they feel others feelings but in fact cannot.
Yeah I’m realizing most people don’t feel very good & it’s definitely bringing me down. Maybe I should try to put blocks up for my own sanity.
Interesting. I’ve had some weird experiences like that too. For example one day at work I had this urge to look at obituaries in a newspaper. Which I never do. I saw this old ladies picture whom I didnt even know & just felt a crazy connection. Almost like she was talking to me. I also loved her name & thought maybe I’ll save that name for my future kids. Well one year later & im buying her house that she lived in for 50 years. I literally had to sit down when the guy told me it was her house. I’m still a little freaked out by that experience. Luckily I feel nothing but good energy from her picture & house so it’s a cool experience. This is a psychic experience I feel like.. but not one I have control of in anyway.