Dating and texting.
So I went out with a leo and a gem. Just the first drink/coffee dates and we had a good time. And the conversations were interesting.
With the gem I gave him my phone # to text to meet up. We only met last night and he texted right after a lovely message about going out again sometime. I thought cool. And now he’s texted again asking how my day went. I have libra 12th planets and unfortunately cap is part of my merc. This is alot when we don’t know each other yet. I need space. Go do something else and ask me out again in a few days. Or email so I have time to reflect and reply.
I really do want to date appropriately. I want to have some fun and when the planets align hook up with the right guy and my best friend and bob’s your uncle. But this means dating.. going out with men who I like.. when they ask I accept.. testing my feelings… oh so saturn in libra.. do it over time! So what do I do? Do I text back and start a back and forth that I don’t really feel yet? “But I thought you liked me you kept texting me”..
Ya this is the fear rearing it’s head.
So ideas? Advice? I don’t want to lie.. but I have no “reason” not to respond… I’m not out or doing meditation etc.. in fact I live my life to create this down time.. 12th house planets.. Is it cocher(sp?) not to respond? Or perhaps I’ll respond late at night?
I’m aware that I tell people I love them too soon.. so being engaged with someone ie back and forth chatting isn’t really good for me.. I need time to feel them out to know if I REALLY do like them. Saturn in cancer.
Dear miss manners….
“With the gem I gave him my phone # to text to meet up. We only met last night and he texted right after a lovely message about going out again sometime. I thought cool. And now he’s texted again asking how my day went.”
I think he’s horny and trying to get laid. If I was him, that’s how I’d do it. If you don’t respond, he’ll fish another line..
Friday, January 13, 2012
Hmm….I wouldn’t see it as a lie if you said you simply weren’t available for back and forth texting at this moment. You don’t have to explain why. But it is the truth because you obviously aren’t comfortable with it. And if you aren’t comfortable with it, then you shouldn’t make yourself available to it.
Thanks Elsa. I also made it clear it was to meet up. So to get laid eh? I guess if it’s not for getting laid and is truly interested then he’d try another approach such as asking on a date. So ok I have an idea there.
And thanks luckyduck .. sometimes I need this reminder. 🙂
Sunday, January 24, 2010
He may be trying to get laid as Elsa said…but he may be thinking the text was a way to let you know that he really is interested but is keeping it light by just asking how your day went. It may very well be a prelude to another date. It is kind of hard to know – dating in the age of texting/emailing/online is just so different than the way it was 20 years ago!
And even if he is just trying to get laid, you already know this isn’t what you want so if he asks for a booty call, you know that is a no go. And you can happily cross him off your list, right? Next!
Saturday, October 23, 2010
I’d respond once more about your day – something short like ‘Great, thanks’ and leave it at that, so it doesn’t include an opening for another question.
THEN, if he texts yet again, don’t reply right away and when you do, steer the text toward meeting up again instead of chatting.
Different people have different preferred ways of communicating, so I wouldn’t cut him off just because of this, if you are potentially interested.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
As a Gemini – I think when we are interested and enjoyed our time, we want to spend more time as soon as we can. 😛 I’d take it as a compliment.
I’d just wait to respond when you feel like you want to see him again, but don’t wait too long or he’d feel rejected!
I communicate a lot by text. Calling is too formal, and a text is more casual and light so it’s not as pushy to me.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
I’d say, the time of day really matters. If he’s asking you out for dinner or earlier, it’s probably not going to be a booty call. If he texts at night or texts to meet late, then he’s probably wanting sex.
I wouldn’t automatically say it’s sex though. If he really only wanted sex, he probably would have tried the first night.
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
I don’t think a text means that he wants to get laid necessarily. It could simply be a way to say “I liked our date and I’m interested in you”. I really don’t get it how a nice text can mean that he wants to get laid. Geez. As for the time of texting, come on, guys. I text my friends at all hours; it doesn’t mean anything other than what time I’m alone and available for texting. And what’s wrong with wanting to get laid anyway (if he wants just that)? If/When he asks and you don’t want to, you say so. Done.
If what bothers you is too many texts too soon, I think Janne’s suggestion makes sense esp. if you find it too pesky to respond to a million nice texts too soon. Perhaps try it and u see if he’s still around.
It was just that one that threw me off. Really too soon IMO. But I got my space and replied in the morning and now it’s normal. It’s a gem thing I think. I like it until I try to read more into it. 😛 While my moon is in gem, my merc is in scorpio. 😉
Thanks everyone! 🙂 ALL of the perspectives helped.
Sunday, March 18, 2012
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
No it’s my chart.. pluto transiting my 3rd.. i use my phone for business now.. or people i like.. otherwise i don’t want a bunch of strangers texting me.. i know my moon should love the spontaneity.. however i am also enjoying the peace that comes from not having to be available 24/7
the fact that he’s still texting even though i didn’t get back asap is good.. i also have a big uranus signature.. i need space.. so so far so good imo.
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