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I have some question about your experiences in synastry involving Venus or Mars.

Funny how it really works, even if someone doesn't believe it - let me give you my own example...

In "relationship" with some guy, there was a tension between us all the time...All the time. What an explosive mix it was - sexual attraction, but also a lot of anger, misunderstandings, feeling of not being taken seriously, constant outbursts (!!!). I have Venus in Aquarius and he Venus and Mars in Leo. And guess what I heard from him? That I'm weird...I don't know how many times I've heard that I'm weird ! Of course it was not only one thing there...

So it's true - Aqua and Leo Venus are not a good match, when these signs form a square there's a  conflict and tension....
I don't want to tell you how many times this Leo Venus has criticized me...
pointing out "what he thinks is wrong with me." He was also picking on my activity,often nagging me, and finally he couldn't stand the fact that I was  "passive" - in his opinion...

This is also something I once experienced with another Leo Sun. I also heard those texts about confidence and being so "passive". Do any of you have similar experiences - Leo Venus is unaccepting, not very tolerant, can't be very supportive of a partner? Weakness makes them irritated, there is a lot of anger towards Aqua Venus, even disrespect and disdain, they like it when everything is clear. No Leo has ever irritated me like this one - maybe Venus in Aqua is very soft and calm, the can"t understand or even stand Leo Venus who puts himself first and expects admiration. In the end he left me of course - it couldn't be otherwise...

I have the impression that even the house overlays show that everything is bad (Mars in 1st and 8th house), but these aspects between Venus and Venus or Mars and Mars, and then again Venus and Mars were crucial here. The rest was no better, but I'd rather focus on what I'm describing...It can say a lot.

Have you had similar experiences?
In particular, I really wanted to know if anyone had a better experience between Aqua Venus and Leo Mars, but not only... Any other case will also interest me, with a special focus on air Venus - do you have this feeling that they are difficult to get along with?

What are your experiences - do you feel attracted to some Venus like moths to a flame or in another way - have you learned that some of them are better to avoid because they only generate misunderstandings, conflicts or even mutual hatred?

 

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In particular, I really wanted to know if anyone had a better experience between Aqua Venus and Leo Mars

the moment i started reading about sexual tension i thought: omg what if it's leo and aquarius combo? and then it is. whacky  

i'm saying this bc i'm a leo venus AND mars myself and the most sexual tension i've ever felt - was with an aqua venus (aqua dominant energy). soooo there's something there. 

we were never in a relationship, just ... we knew each other and the sexual tension was insane and still is to this very day, even when we just look at each other in the middle of the day.

we had so so many issues with communicating and opening up to each other. it's like we're the same, but also not quite there. 

i think he sees me as difficult and demanding, "too much, too intense" and scary; he's much more chill, but also somewhat drawn to my fiery energy, but it's just too hard to find middle ground so it stays on tension, being provoked by each other and going separate ways. i also AM very demanding and i want a lot. leo energy is like that. aquas are so chill. 

and if you combine all that pluto/mars/venus/moon tense aspects you guys have, you get what you get.

if he dragged you for what he thought were your flaws, you should've done the same for his leo flaws as well. he probably deserved it. 

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@problematique Thank you so much...I found my opposite, finally! It's really nice to know how it looks on the other side, because your male "opposite" wasn't so talkative Smile To be honest....He was too pride, almost silent or talked only when he wanted to, with limited access ? ? . He was very closet, arrogant and cocky...Demanding? Wow, I appreciate your honesty. Yes, I feel that side in him too, but I couldn't call it like that then...I also think that he was controlling - that's more my assumption now, because I haven't had that "chance" to know him better, (maybe for good) but I felt that strongly (my intuition). Maybe being controlling is not a Leo Mars/Venus thing/trait, but more Mars - Pluto or even Venus - Pluto type of behaviour (he had that in natal chart). Once again - thank you for reply... ?

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yeah, i really think leo energy in itself isn't as controlling but his plutonic energy could be. 
i also have mars - pluto natally (and a square); i can be very controlling but not directly... it's more of a silent, subconscious energy, a person might not even know they're being controlled by me, and sometimes i don't even notice how i'm doing it. 

if you sensed him being controlling, he probably was; i always trust my intuition. maybe in general he was a bit "too much" for you, so maybe another leo guy without so much pluto would be a better fit? popcorn

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I have an air Venus and fire Mars. It's when my Mars makes an aspect to someone else's personal planet that things tend to get very heated, especially when it's the other person's Mars. I have the conjunction with a friend of mine and we've gotten into a couple of heated verbal fights that had us not talking for a while. Mars is in Sagittarius.

I also have Venus in Aquarius and I get called some interesting names by this same friend, mostly goofball or weirdo. Today it was dorkus maximus. However coming from him, it's not in a mean way at all. I liken them to terms of endearment and I don't get offended at all because I know it's affection coming from this friend.

However when I think of Venus and Mars making contact in synastry, it's more along the lines of sexual tension and chemistry. No hatred. Where there Pluto contacts with Mars in your synastry charts or both of your Mars making contact with one another?

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PurpleStarGirl, thanks for reaction ❤️ 

There are mutual aspects between my Moon, our Pluto,Mars and Venus, with sings like Scorpio, Leo, Aquarius and Taurus, so always squares or oppositions.

 

We had:

my Mars square his Mars,

my Moon square his Mars,

my Moon square his Venus,

my Moon conjunct his Pluto,

my Venus opposite his Mars,

my Mars square his Venus,

my Venus opposite his Venus,

my Pluto square his Venus,

my Mars opposite his Pluto,

my Pluto square his Mars.

 

So there is a lot...

In house overlays Mars in 1st and 8th house - I was always afraid of that...Venus in 1st and 5th house.

 

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Mars square Mars and Pluto square Mars....that probaby has a lot to do with it. I don't think the hatred is a Venus/Mars issue. More to do with Mars/Mars and Pluto/Mars.

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@purplestargirl And what do you think about Mars in 1st and 8th house in house overlays - is is dangerous (Mars in 8th?)

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 I personally wouldn't say dangerous. I think it's physical (1st house) and sexual (8th house) attraction.

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@purplestargirl I also heard from some person that Mars in 8th is not a good sign in divorce cases...:(

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Maybe someone still add something new here... ❤️ 

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