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Macateta
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What do you think determines if a woman is not very feminine? I am very aware of people perceiving me as unfeminine, which has been worsened by the fact that I was taller and bigger than every other girl (and most boys) in school. And I gained a reputation of being a tomboy without behaving like one. Some people also labeled me as a lesbian, based on this perception alone, even though I feel no attraction towards women.

It's strange because I have Venus in Libra, Taurus rising, all water or earth signs (except moon in aries and venus in libra, which are at opposition, could this aspect be the culprit?). I think that Venus (it is not retrograde, as you would expect) is the dominant planet in my chart, closely followed by Saturn.

As an example, I always hated dance classes because they would always say you had to put your hands in a delicate position and be all feminine, and they said this as a sidenote, without explaining how to actually do it. All the other girls did it naturally, and understood what the teacher meant, but I always got a horrible feeling due to this, I couldn't do it.

below is my chartimage-2.jpeg

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Well if your birth time is just slightly off, you could have Aries rising, with the moon conjunct it. Any chance your birth time is off?

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venusflytrp said
Well if your birth time is just slightly off, you could have Aries rising, with the moon conjunct it. Any chance your birth time is off?  

Nope... I'm pretty sure it's correct, and it's on my birth certificate. Althought one time I had my chart read by a Hindu astrologer, and he used Vedic Astrology, according to him my ascendant is Aries.

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I also have Venus in Libra. I hated dance class. I am still in tomboy. I referred to wear my brother's clothes and couldn't be more awkward than in dressed or frilly things. My Mars is a degree away from yours. I am dating a Gemini with Libra rising and he is very fashion and label savvy with a bit of snobbery to it. I am always getting my ass pulled out of my ears if we argue too long because eventually he will   blurt out YIU DRESS LIKE A HOMELESS TEENAGE RETARDED CABBAGE PATCH KID. YOU CAN GET NRE CLOTHES, I'LL PAY.PLEASE. YOU'VE LOST LIKE 25 POUNDS BUT NOBODY CAN TELL UNLESS YOU'RE NAKED.

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I am a bit of a dickhead sometimes. ???♊.  I am. I just get so amused by the way some people have to go freak out over the dumb crap like that when they haven't got any kids to worry about they're not watching a parent dying in pieces, mentally before the body catches up. I wish that I'll fitting jeans from the dollar store and my clumsy lack of feminity was the only shit I had to flush this year. I don't know what the odds are for us. When he dated up, he chose to take ballroom dancing and a few other etiquette classes. Who WANTS to take dance and ..... chivalry classes if you aren't.... doing it as part probation,? I am graceless. But I am fun. Kids animals and most ghosts like me. And I'm not tall at all but I put on a skirt n heels and I look like a Five foot two constipated Yeti. No, not feminine.?

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GingerAleMood, I relate to everything you've said. It's strange when I meet men that are more fashionable and stylish than I am (they are more common than you'd think). My mom and sister always tell me the same thing your boyfriend says to you.

A couple of years ago my aunt and uncle did an 'intervention' in which they told me I would never achieve anything if I didn't start dressing more fashionably and being more flirty. That really hurt me, I cried my eyes out that night. One of my biggest fears had been confirmed, I felt rejected by my family and there wasn't one single person that could comfort me, only my closest friend.

I also don't understand how can they give so much priority to something as superficial as that. I understand that personal grooming and being presentable is a way of showing respect to others, but it's not supposed to be more important than other personal characteristics or the emotional wellbeing of your family. It's not supposed to become an obsession. To me, someone who doesn't bother to be presentable in public because they don't care or can't, isn't nearly as bad as someone who is obsessed with others' perception of them and who feels they have the right to put other people down based on their appearance.

I feel like the black sheep of my family because of this. They don't care if you're rude, ungrateful,, if you're shit as a person as long as you give a good impression and are always charming in public. This has been driving me crazy my entire life.

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