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Hello,
I just wanted to ask you a question about this woman. Its my olf friend from the past, even though our paths separated she wants to keep in touch with me. She knows im busy. Whenever i post something on social media from the new city i work in or im around new people she is the first and sometimes the only one to comment as we would be still good friends, to write to me on private that „we MUST meet” or sth.
We had a friendship in the past but actually our paths separsted especially at the beginning of pandemics- i didnt „inform or tell” her that „we separate our friendship” because we have never been that close.
She aleays return to me only when sees my achivements or someone tags me on social media and she sees that i have different life -( that she doesnt know about).
I started to block her on social media some months ago but her bf (!!!) told me in june that SHE thinks i blocked her and she doesnt know why.
I dont want her to have some control or upper hand on me. It feels weird because if im in other city around other people, i do my other job, she is only one to comment to „like” to have interaction on my social media. Its weird because its not a way to keep in touch- when i come back to my city i dont post it on social media and i am still in touch with my other friends on private messages that noone knows.
For me her behaviour is weird especially because she doesnt post anything and she doesnt tell me anything about her life.
For me it seems like she ubderstood that i have my life and she is not the centre of attention as it was always in the past and she tries to make me come back to her somehow. But i dobt feel the need to explain and tell my life- i just vanish and do my thing. I am the most significant person for me and i really dont need anyone like this.
Its not normal i have other friends who behave normally.
What do you think?
thank you 
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It sounds to me like she is being friendly and perhaps even thinks she is supporting you. I suppose she could be popping up to annoy or trigger you, but she's not got that kind of chart.
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Good luck.
@elsa thank you for the answer Elsa. I just dont know why she pops up. Â I really do not care what others think but sometimes i feel she is a person that likes to show her place everywhere.
Possibly she has a homosexual attachment to you, not necessarily that she's conscious of this as outwardly she has a bf, and is somewhat obsessed and a bit stalkerish. You sound creeped out in your post, so if it's the case and you don't feel you're missing anything by not being friends, then I would block her and move on. It sounds like it's hanging over you, and you feel guilty. You likely have no reason to be.Â
@sophiab i have never thought about homosexual attachment because she has been in the sam erelationship for the last 10 years I guess. She is stalkerish and its what i know. In the past we have been closer friends but paths usually dissolve. We had a group of 3 and one girl ( capricorn sun leo moon) decided to leave the group in 2014 as i remember. Since then i have a rare contac with her and whenever we meet she asks me why i was still friends with this sag. capricorn friend told me Sag is toxic and she knew it earlier than me and thought i would see it too and leave. I didnt because maybe of my aries sun? Sometimes its very superficial what i say but sag and aries when comparing to Sun signs are more comoatibile than Capricorn and Fire signs. But i have capricorn moon and since many years i have changed and been operating with my Capricorn Moon more than Aries Sun. It gave me more stability calmness and confidence.Â
I sound creeped out a bit, yes because i always thought that people are free to choose. I have never treated anyone badly, i always explained, listened to people. Even when I decidede to leave i do it in a calm way. I dont make any drama in my life because i dont waste my energy on that. I really dont care if people like it or not but its alla bout the feeling inside me.Â
I remember that in the past - i mean 10-7 years ago when we were closer friends, it was obvious that we have shared many similar thought and moments with this Sag. She was always the one to have 1 boyfriend, and i was the one to have problems with relationships. BUT it was me who was always there to help Sag with her bf, always listened to her and help whenever she wanted. After years i realised it was a bit toxic because she was always turning to me whenever she was sad and feeling lonely having problems with bf. When everything was ok she was leaving me and turning to other friends to show (?) tell them she was ok with her relationship. I realised that and left her and since years i faded away she has been popping up, stalking me . `i think its because she realised that i left or that i have different life that she doesnt know about.Â
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@okkkk I think I was drawn to the Moon and Saturn in Aquarius re: unconscious homosexuality, also the Virgo energy. I had a friend with Moon in Aquarius and she got quite strange and possessive when I started seeing someone (a man). It related to their unconscious attachment to their mother and I'd stepped into that role without awareness, probably due to my own wounding. Not saying these placements determine all that, but it's a possibility!
Definitely sounds like an imbalanced relationship in regards to give and take, and as you've grown stronger it's become outdated. It's up to you now to draw the line and keep moving in your positive direction. Good luck!Â
Hi OKkk,Â
I can’t see the chart very clearly but I noticed the Moon in what looks like the 12th? This can make someone feel lonely. I am not saying feel sorry for her, as she does sound a bit needing your attention which can feel suffocating sometimes. I have a Sag friend who latched on to me and she is very sweet but she has a side of her I am not sure about. She makes us schedule a call every month and when I missed our third call she betrayed me harshly saying she cancelled an engagement to be in the call with me, when she is the one more insistent on scheduling these calls. I apologized and explained my other friends and I just call when we think if it and if they don’t answer we try another time or leave a vm. She is a busy attorney with an active life (a BF and lots of socializing). I told her please don’t cancel engagements on my account. I have not missed any more calls and she seems fine now yet when we talk, it’s like an interview of me. I don’t know if it’s because she’s an attorney or a Sag she is like this.Â
I hope you can find the answers here and find some peace but I understand your feelings about it.Â
@dawn hello, thank you for the answer! I know what you say about Sag. I guess its also abouts ome of other her traits and how she was brought up by parents. ( centre of attention, feeling like a queen and etc) surrounded by many people, social person but somehow cant let me go? Why? Haha