Some people have a “fatal flaw” when it comes to relationships. I’m talking about the kind of person who is never, ever going to have a successful relationship. Well…unless they fix their fatal flaw, which never seems likely. Invariably, their flaw is tucked neatly into one of their blind spots.
There a number of “fatal flaws” which will thwart a person in relationships. One of them is that they be too controlling.
No one wants to live under another person’s rule. But even if they WANTED to, it would not be possible over time. This is because people age. As they age, what they can and can’t do will change. Also, the controlling partner loses respect for the person allowing themselves to be controlled. Loss of respect leads to loss of interest. The controlled person is dumped, a new person is put in their place and the pattern is repeated.
Generally, you see this play out in short cycles. A person meets someone and they seem okay. But then they cross some kind of line. At that point, the hope starts to fade for the person who wants Mr. or Mrs. Terrific. They’re thwarted again – poor thing.
People like this think they’re terrific, or pretty damned close. You can see the loop play out again and again and again. Criticism of the other. A fake, “balanced view”. False humility. Blah!
Meantime, the person ages, but they gain no wisdom. It’s got to be horrible. But come on! If you can’t put up with a flawed human being, how are you not going to be alone?
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Do you know someone like this? Are you someone like this? What’s the astrology?