Women, Did You Marry Your Dad?

Degas womanIt’s said that women end up marrying their dad while men marry their mother.  I think this is true, in large part. It’s uncanny.

Sometimes a woman is conscious of what they’re doing. They may love their dad and look for someone with similar qualities.  A woman may be semi-conscious of what she is doing or not conscious at all.

Here’s the trippy part: even if a woman thinks they are marrying their “anti-dad”, provided they stay married long enough, the similarities show themselves!

I am satisfied this is true in families where the girl was raised by her father. But I wonder what happens to girls who were raised by a stepdad or had no dad at all.

Is the imprint on the baby, who would be tied to the bio-dad? Or it this more tied to nurture?   Would  girl growing up raised by two different men, find herself a hybrid?

Here’s an old post regarding the physical similarities between dads and husbands…

Marry A Man Who Looks Like Your Father?

I wonder about the astrology.  Certain aspects or themes do run in families but my father and my husband’s chart have virtually nothing in common.

What do you think of this? What have you seen and what’s true in your case?



Women, Did You Marry Your Dad? — 21 Comments

  1. I had a conflicted relationship with my mother and my ex was very similar to her. I think people unconsciously seek out partners looking to heal the wounds from those ambivalent parental issues

  2. It’s known that more than 50% of behavior is genetic, and that step parents have little influence on behavioral patterns, so even if the biological parent is missing, that’s going to be the model….In my case, I bear no resemblance to my wife’s father, so she must have been rebelling…..

  3. Haha um, YES. And I tried not to, but whoops.

    Similarities are:
    Dad – Taurus Sun (6th house) hard aspect to Saturn
    Husband – Virgo Sun (10th house) hard aspect to Saturn
    Both have Sagittarius rising and Cancer Venus
    Both have charts heavy in fixed and mutable signs.
    Both have Mercury in ruling signs of Virgo and Gemini and in hard aspect to Saturn.
    I’m sure there’s more that I don’t see because I’m so-so at chart reading.

    They work in the same profession. There are definitely some differences and they look nothing alike whatsoever, but sometimes I tell my husband he’s acting like my dad, or saying something my dad would say.

    (As an aside, my father in law was a Virgo and is similar to them both…)

    • The only similarity I can see between my mother in law and myself is our Suns are in water signs in easy aspect to Saturn.

  4. I did the first time.

    Then I finally got smart in my late 40’s.

    I have South Node conjunct my Capricorn Descendant. My “spouse”
    of 10 years knows me intimately and accepts me fully, warts and all. Something my father refused to do. I was rejected and abandoned by my father. When he did visit with me briefly, he humiliated me and made me feel less than zero.

    I will NEVER accept such treatment from a man again.

    I spent the first half of my life accepting all the abuse men dished out to me, because it was all I knew from my dad unfortunately. Never again.

  5. I married parts of my mother, parts of my father and many parts belonging to my husband (and also belonging to family patterns passed on to him by his parents/family.)

    I was conscious of it. When my parents are no longer around he’ll remind me of them!

  6. This is an amazing topic. I dated three men from college to early 20s and as it turned out, ALL had Virgo mothers (I am a Virgo) born on (1) the same day as me, (2) the next day, (2)the third day after (obv not the same year!). Yikes. I eventually married a man who over the years has shown many more similarities to my father (yikes, but it’s nothing negative) although they have no bold chart similarities I can find — ah except both are Cardinal signs. And yes, my husband’s mom is a… Virgo.

  7. Astrologically yes… both Leo’s. Born 1 day apart. I have sun conjunct dc. Dad and husband have mars conjunct Pluto prominent Uranus. I am aqua asc. Similar astrological signatures(Virgo/ libra heavy) but they do not look alike at all!

  8. I’d say no, my Scorpio Dad’s chart is very Pluto & Saturn based (we get along quite well/very naturally) while Mr. Leo/Libra’s chart is very Neptune/Venus based. Really the only similarity in their charts that I see would be they both have Mars in Leo.

  9. I didn’t marry my dad at all, but I’m a lot like my dad in temperament. I think my husband sorta married his mother, in a weird way. MIL is a Pisces and I’m a Virgo but I think we’re both more expressive and open with feelings than husband

  10. I totally married my mother with a smidge of my father. Uncanny stuff like falls asleep with TV remote in hand or hand a small vault for their vitamin collection. Lots of little stuff that they didn’t do till later. The parts like my father are more fun. I think we’re all looking for the family of origin familiarity. I think my deepest loves have all quite a bit in common.

  11. I think I ran from my Dad and his friends, he was the Marlboro man
    We( my sisters and I) we were looking for a cowboy.;but now I think
    Someone afraid of spiders could understand me

  12. My father is a Cancer. Embarrassing secret: every man I’ve ever dated with any degree of seriousness has had a Cancer Moon. Every. Single. One.

  13. I think I was imprinted on 2 male figures and have been trying to find a balance between the two: My brother, a playful, kind of smart-quirky Uranus-affected Scorpio with Leo moon. And my dad, a stubborn (kind of a mean-grump), traditionalist, plows through us, obsessed with informing us of dangers, gets his way, but keeps his promises, awkward but chatty, stays on routine (possibly has Aspergers) 8th house Taurus, Pisces moon type.

    You can see the conundrum. Like oil and water. But I see the personality similarities across the exes. All quirky. Boys with glasses. People who need time to open up. Introvert. Playful banter-y grumpy is cute to me, though I’ve learned that distrust grumpy is not (no no no no, go away).

    I don’t see a Astro-match with my exes though. But I see some pattern in that I date people with earth &/or fire in the sun and moon. I need to stay away from Aries or early Taurus moons & Venuses though. Too much hidden away with subterfuge in my 12th house, which weirdly enough comes from their moms. (Nooo)

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