I got a call today from a friend who is in love with a man who is a Sagittarius. I don’t blame her- the man is a go-getting God. He works for a nonprofit and tirelessly champions the downtrodden as a successful fundraising dervish. My friend is a Taurus. Did you hear the “clunk” after I said “Taurus”? Most of her questions center on asking me WHEN he is going to stop chasing waterfalls, and decide to pick her once and for all and settle down and start a “real” life. Her chart has very little fire and air; his has no water, but does have earth. You’d think this is a match made in heaven, right? Opposites attract, and all that?
Well, maybe. If the Sag had a “goal” in mind to pursue the fundraising for a limited amount of time, and then switch his focus to home and family, I’d say there’s a really good chance that my friend’s investment in being his cheerleader at this time, given the fact that he really does seem to cherish her, would be worth the wait. After all, relationships are compromise, and perhaps this is her time to compromise.
That being said, I look at other factors in their charts. His Mercury is in a fire sign in an air house… he is an “idea” man, a true genius at thinking and seeing the big picture when it comes to social issues. Her Mercury is in a water sign, in an earth house. She says what she means, and means what she says. When his Mercury comes up with an “idea of their future”, her Mercury hears it and assumes it’s going to be a “reality”. See the problem?
But this is my friend, and I really want to find something positive to tell her, something that reassures her that he’s going to get off the horse, put down his chainmail, and be her own personal Knight in shining armor. So I keep looking. Whoops, he’s got Mars in Aries. Trine Uranus. Now he’s got a horse, AND a cape.
The conundrum is that he has a Moon/Venus conjunction– in Taurus—hooray, something to work with! But unfortunately it is 16 degrees away from her Sun; I would have loved to see it very close, but I have to work with what I’ve got. His Moon/Venus says that he does indeed want a woman who keeps the home fires burning. But the rest of his chart says that he most likely won’t be home much to enjoy the fires- but when he is, he wants them going strong!
So my ultimate opinion is that my friend has to make the decision about just how much time she wants to spend with her Champion. She’s not going to get the bit in his mouth; she will never be the First and Foremost that she dreams of being, at least not while he is Willing and Able to serve the masses. She must either join him in his social reform dreams, or be content to stoke the fires and hope he checks in for the evening. This is where it is crucial to “know thyself”.
Have you ever loved a “hero” or “heroine” and had to let go with love?