My fiancee has pictures, movie stubs, concert stubs and other items from his time with his ex-girlfriend on the fridge and hanging up. After a little while of dating, I asked him to take down the photos; he would take down one at a time after I would ask and not without some retort about their insignificance. Okay then. They broke up two years ago…but she did text him this past winter. He also has a picture of her from two years ago in his phone which he says he just didn’t get around to deleting.
I fancy myself a pretty patient and open minded person… but I think if he is over this person, then the pics should be put away. I have albums of exes and I love keeping them around. I still listen to mixes they made me, wear jewelry they bought me, etc. I don’t expect anything different from him or anyone I would date…. but with things like pictures of them together out in the open, I don’t feel welcome at his place. Am I overreacting to this?
I told him at the time of asking the pics to come down that if he has stuff to deal with in regard to this ex, that it is fine. We can be friends or just date and take things slower and see what happens. But each time he would say he loves me, has never felt this way before and has been talking marriage talk with me pretty much since the beginning and it makes me happy. I just love this person.
We are great together, passionate about each other, have a great time seeing bands/going to movies/camping/nights talking/etc, and just love each other. I don’t doubt that. It’s perfect except for this one thing that I just don’t get. He’s dated a lot and all of his friends are surprised at how fast things are moving with us. He just says I’m the one. Basically, he rushed full on into getting engaged and wanting to marry me… we even met the parents and family last month! His mom is helping to get the ring too.
I am going through a pluto/venus opposition right now and am wondering if I am projecting astrology or is it just really manifesting this way to an ending/life change Pluto control thing?
Is my leonine ego just warped as all get out??
Perplexed and Patient
You think you’re perplexed? You ought to be me reading your post. I was thinking, how can this woman put up with this?
So I put up your chart and could see at least a hundred reasons. And obviously outlining them is beyond the scope of this blog. So rather than worry about trying to untangle what all is driving you, I’ll just give you my read on this.
It seems to me your boyfriend is obsessed and carrying a torch for his ex. If that is true, there is no way in the world you should marry him under these circumstances. I don’t even think you should date him. You know. Call me when you take down the shrine, dipshit!
Second, I would pay mind to the way his friends are reacting. It’s not good. It seems they strongly suspect he is careening â€˜round the track in his car, destined to crash and they are probably right.
Last, the mother. Look out! Mothers tend to know their sons and I am sure this one knows her son is in love with the other woman… or with the memory/hologram of her. That she is rushing to get you a ring scares the hell out of me because I think you are being used.
Are you supposed to be the duct tape that holds her son together? Are you supposed to be the barrier that prevents her son getting back with his ex? These things are scary.
I see and appreciate the fact you want to keep your ego under control, etc. But I don’t think you are reading your Pluto transit correctly. In the simplest terms, I think what you’ve got here is a shadow side to your love and it’s (Jupiter) enormous.