I’ve been dating the same guy off and on now for nine months now. He has broken up with me probably 5 times. The first time, he begged for me back. The second time, we were apart for a month til he came over and we got back together.
Every time we break up, he tells me that he doesn’t want a relationship, and that his heart is not into us. I know he’s leading me on, and that he will only use me. I don’t know why I keep going back to him. Maybe I’m afraid I will not have that special feeling ever again. Or maybe I still love him.
I feel broken and am just torn at the whole thought of all of this. I know I can be alone, but being by myself at night seems so hard to deal with.
Do you have any words of wisdom?
Wise words? Yes, I do. First, this guy is not running your life. Get that clear. You’re the one in control here. You’re the one choosing to take part in this crappy, unsatisfying relationship. In other words, you are responsible.
Now, regarding your chart – there’s major focus on relationship. With your planets in Libra, and your Moon in the seventh house, there’s a strong desire to be partnered. You can be alone, but I doubt you’re going to like it much. You’re just not cut out for singleness like some others are. Further, you have Venus in aspect with Saturn in your chart, suggesting relationships where you learn and grow. A relationship is your JOB.
So here’s what I’m getting at. You need to do a better job!!! Get out of your victim role and take responsibility for the quality (or lack of quality) of your relationship. You’re in a crappy relationship because you’re in a crappy relationship. If you want a better relationship, you know what to do.
Step one – get out of this one!!
Step two – go shopping for the next relationship.
And believe me, they’ll be one, faster than you can spin. See, you’re learning, just like you’re supposed to. Look what you learned today. You get what you settle for. And you’re the one who decides when to settle.
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