It occured to me that I’m not particularly able to retain friends. There was a bunch of people I used to go out with, when I was in school. After that when I joined college, I realised no one from my old group is going to be around me anymore (Not that we had a lot of fights etc, but it wasn’t simply feasible anymore, given how busy we were with our lives. So I made new friends.
Fast forward to the next level, I moved out of my hometown for higher studies, and again the same thing happened. AND again it’s happening now, that I’m about to begin research/work (i.e. the next phase).
I realise that’s how life rolls, and I only have very fond memories of my old friends, at least most of them. But somehow, I feel like just when I begin to make longer term connections, I get picked up by an unseen force and thrown a thousand miles away. Does this happen to a lot of people? Or is something wrong with me? What is the secret to becoming friends forever?
What you’re experiencing is most definitely normal. You’re not yet twenty-five. You’re on the move and your explanation for the various separations is valid. It’s also common friendships to fade or break when someone marries or has a child.
There is definitely not something is wrong with you, but I can tell you why you feel that way. You have Venus in Libra square a stellium in Capricorn.
Translated, you value (Venus) social interaction (Libra). But your ambition (Capricorn) clashes with this. It’s also your Capricorn moon that wonders if you have some deep flaw. Well, you don’t.
I don’t expect you to take my word for that, seeing as you are a evidence-collecting Virgo so let me clarify this, further by answering this:
“What is the secret to becoming friends forever?”
People who are able to keep their friends forever generally have many planets in Fixed signs. For example, my husband has the same friends he had forty years ago. He’s a Taurus with a Scorpio Moon. You don’t have much in the Fixed signs which explains a lot.
This does not mean you will never find a lifelong friend. I’m like you and I’ve done it. But my lifelong friends are invariably heavily Fixed. They keep me more than I keep them because they’re the ones who know how to do this. Left to my own devices, I float away.
Right now, you’re young and on the move. This is your priority. If at some time in your life, “friends forever” becomes your main goal, I’m sure you’ll succeed. But don’t be surprised to get a little older and realize you’re more of a gas molecule, than you are a mountain.
How long is your average friendly relationship?
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