On the post Are Cancers Manipulative?, Kri commented: Maybe difficulty with emotional self regulation is at the root of being manipulative.
I think there’s something to that! Water signs are the signs most likely to be accused of manipulation, and that’s no accident.
Water signs swim through a sea of emotion in order to navigate the world. It is how they shine, how they how they operate, and how they are able to be their most authentic selves. This is the most fundamental basis for being a water sign.
As a consequence, emotions for them are BIG. They are incredibly intense and take on primary importance in their lives. Without emotion, water ceases to function. So of course their emotions take center stage.
But when emotions are that huge and central, they can be difficult to regulate. They can’t intellectualize them like an air sign would. They can’t ground them like an earth sign, and they can’t scream them to the heavens like a fire sign. They have to flow through them and experience them fully in order to process. And that can be a process can be painful! Not everyone can stand it, at least not all the time. And when they can’t stand it, they find other ways to cope.
That’s why Cancer controls. It’s why Scorpio retreats. It’s why Pisces dissociates.
When “normal” emotional regulation techniques fail, that is the built-in way they deal with them. If this way of doing things is getting in the way of your life, there are ways to change it. But know this: there’s nothing inherently wrong with processing emotions a little differently. Every sign has their own methods, and that’s okay. As long as those methods work for you and don’t cause unnecessary grief for your closest people, then there’s really no problem. Just keep swimming, water signs. You’ve got this.
Do you have water in your chart? How do you deal with emotions?