Let’s say you meet someone and you’re around them regularly for some reason. Perhaps you work with them. And you realize they irk you. They may irk you a little. They may irk you a lot or it may vary or change over time. But the bottom line is, the person bothers you and you can’t really say why.
Now whose fault is this? Do you assume it’s you who is off in the equation?
Do you assume that your intuition is telling you something about the person and that your sense is reliable?
Do you try to get to the bottom of the issue? Do you ask yourself if you might be jealous, or fear being rejected by the person? Or do you assume the person is up to something, even if you have no evidence.
You get the idea. If someone’s existence puts you on edge, do you look at their psyche? Or yours?
And last, have you ever had a favorable resolution to a situation like this? How do you resolve something like this, typically?