When someone’s planets fall in your houses in synastry, do you as the house person feel it more or does the planet person feel it more? Or do we both equally feel it?
For example, my ex had his sun, moon, and mercury (libra) all in my 12H. Boyyy I felt that! Do you think it’s mutual? I did not have any planets in his 12H. My sun and Venus were in his 11H.
Just wanted to know your thoughts about who feels what. Thank you!
—B from Portland, Maine, USA
Hi, B. Here’s the “math” on this:
One person has the chart, the other has the planets.
The person with the chart has the areas of life indicated by each house. The person with the planets energize the house where they land.
Case in point, you could feel your 12th house all over the place, with this other person’s planets activating that house (for good or ill).
Now did that person feel something, with this particular overlay? Perhaps.
Let’s say I have a bunch of planets that land in someone’s 8th house. I might know or sense that I disturb them but I would not be disturbed in the same way they were.
Broadly speaking, you can see the house as the receiver and the planets to be the male end of this? Your house is empty and then someone fills it with their planets – you will know this. They can know they are supplying energy that is affecting you but the feelings are not equivalent and in fact, the person affecting you can be completely oblivious.
A good example of this is when people has wild reactions to strangers on the Internet. They’re activated by the other person’s energy when the person supplying the trigger doesn’t even know they exist.
The picture is meant to illustrate this. You’re the main road… the other person is entering your stream.
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