There is a great debate around the soldier’s bitching me out because he does not do very many (household) chores. I was writing yet another response when I decided it warranted it’s own post because some people don’t read the comments. So to elaborate..
The soldier says he hates chores. He also hates to go to work but he does both without fail once he knows what is expected. And while he does like to lie around, he is extraordinarily good to my son… he is changing his life, enhancing it beyond all measure (and mine too) so these things have to be weighed.
For example, it is pretty much worth it to me to do all the work so he is free to have a conversation with my son and this reflects my value system which assigned high worth to ethereal things over the material or practical. I think this is a mistake a lot of people make, especially with Scorpio and to a lessor extent the other water signs…
When Scorpio shares their energy the other person is empowered and when you get a good specimen, which the soldier is… well this is why people crave his energy. This is why they call him 20 + years after the fact. It’s because they were enriched by him and they want further exposure.
It is very common to undervalue this type contribution in the moment but as Taj Mahal points out, “You don’t miss your water till your well run dry,” and I think about this a lot:
Do I want the soldier to vacuum the living room or talk to my son about how a real man always treats a women with respect? Hmm. So far I have opted to vacuum the floor myself about 99% of the time.
What do you (most) value in relationship? What do you offer?