I also thought about a client I spoke with recently. Her boyfriend has said certain things to her. She interpreted what he said differently than I did. I don’t know which one of us is right, but I do know she’d cut off the communication after he said certain things, which makes it hard to keep a relationship strong and healthy.
My husband I can talk because we have to talk. We’re married. We’re completely committed. Sure, it’s not always easy or even pleasant. But enduring the difficult times makes the great times (which are far more common), possible. You’re just not going to know a person and not have them utter something displeasing to you now and then.
Another gal wrote in the forum about how her friends sort of left her behind. I got the strong impression she was not really needing or wanting a friend, but something more akin to a primary relationship. Because friends do move on…
This morning I was going to write about how hardly anyone marries anymore. It’s not because they don’t want to. This might have been the reason in the 1970’s but today? Most the single women I work with would love to be married, they just don’t have any idea how or when or why. When I googled for statistics, I found the graph above.
As startling as the graph looks, I bet you the marriage rate will drop further before it rebounds. I predict this on the 80/20 rule…not Pareto’s but my husband’s 80/20 rule he derived on his own, using the natural logarithm, long before he ever heard of Pareto.
So can you buck this trend? Of course you can. But not by going with the flow, because look where the flow is taking you?
I am not sure what to do about this…for people I know, I mean. I definitely know a lot about this. I understand it, deeply. But I’m not sure it would work for a class “at large”. Maybe I need to talk to people one on one.
Anyway, this is what’s on my mind today. Because so many people I talk to are never going to marry without changing their fundamental (Saturn) beliefs (Sagittarius).
What are your thoughts on the low rate of marriage?