Many people don’t mean what they say. Maybe they don’t know what they mean or what they think but they say things anyway. Maybe this is conscious, maybe it’s not. Maybe it’s malicious but maybe it’s not.
I’m talking about people who are consistently inconsistent in their belief, their thoughts and their actions. People say they’re for “this rule” or “this law”, but they’re willing to make one hundred exceptions to the thing so no one knows where the line is. Many think there should be rules for some, that do not apply to them. They act in opposition of what they claim to believe on a daily, if not an hourly basis.
Don’t cheat…except in these cases.
Don’t steal…except when stealing is justified because of x or y or z.
You shouldn’t do this…unless it’s convenient or you’re having a bad day.
You’ve seen the behavior, it’s common.
We’ve been studying this around here for a couple of years and one thing we’ve realized is that people who live like this are miserable. They’re just plain unhappy because it’s impossible to be happy when you’re that damned lost.
Do you have core beliefs? Are your actions consistent with them and does this affect your happiness?