There was discussion in the forum, “What Makes A Good Friend”. The main criteria for me is that the person have reasonable expectations. This may sound weird, but most people expect way too much others, especially their lover.
People are often let down by their friends and their lovers. When you see a person with this pattern of experience (it’s never their fault), it’s a safe bet if you get into a relationship with them they are going to wind up feeling the same about you.
I’ve learned to avoid people like this. Why invest in a relationship with someone who is never satisfied in a relationship? Who would want to get in line to be the next person to disappoint, the person who is always disappointed?
Do you know anyone like this? Are you like this?