What if you know something really important that you want to share with your partner but they refuse to listen. Something like watching a certain interview or video. Nothing that requires too much work.
What if you ask them to do something (nothing that would harm them of course) and they said that they did not want to do it and that they would never do this thing that would give you and them some common ground to tread upon.
What kind of relationship is that? Is it even a relationship?
I love this person and would never want to cause them discomfort or harm but their lack of “awareness” is absolutely detrimental to our health as a couple.
What would you suggest in a situation like this?
I am not sure you will like my read on this because it definitely reflects my bias but considering you are Sagittarius I know you appreciate other perspectives so here is mine:
I would let this go. I don’t think you can force someone to learn something or have an interest in something they don’t have an interest in. For example, I always wind up with engineers… people like math and like it a lot. My first husband actually stalked me with a math book. He followed me around the house with the book cracked open, he just wanted to show me how interesting this all was and when he wouldn’t stop, I took off out the front door and headed down the dirt road with 5 planets in Scorpio in pursuit.
“But Peewee!” he yelled at my back. “I just want to show you this!”
I kept walking, middle finger held high in the air. And you may call me closed-minded and you may call me un-loving but you call him the same thing, couldn’t you? How closed is the mind that can’t fathom the fact another person is just not interested in the things they are interested in? Do I not love him because I don’t want to be an engineer? Or does he not love me because it is not okay I do not want to be an engineer?
This does not mean I do not understand your feelings. I understand how it could be hurtful when your partner does not want to invest something that is very important to you but if you really think about this, it could be much worse.
For example rather than tell you straight out, “I’m not interested” they could partake of the thing and then mock it. I have seen this too, I’ll tell you:
There was a gal once who liked me quite a bit. We were becoming friends and her genius (just ask him) husband was unnerved. He had her pretty wrapped up, worshiping him so anyway, this poor gal came home with a movie I recommended and he sat down to watch it with her.
He went on to criticize the movie (and me for being so stupid and simpleminded to have liked it) at every frame. Can you imagine? This gal told me about this and the friendship fell off shortly thereafter. It was just too hard for her to defend me so in this case I think she’d have been better off not to share her pleasure.
So take astrology. Should I expect my partner to stop their life and start reading about something that interests me? I don’t think so. I am so totally against this, I can’t say it strong enough. You ask somebody something once and if they have no interest, I think this should be respected. Once that happens, the ball is back in your court.
Can you stand them? Can you stand them not being interested in what you are or does this break the relationship? Personally, I don’t break relationships over things like this; particularly love relationships which are to come by but let me answer your specific question:
Is it even a relationship?
Yes. It is a relationship with a boundary which may indicate health not otherwise.
And while it is possible your partner’s boundary is detrimental to your relationship it is just as possible your inability or unwillingness to accept the boundary is what is detrimental to your relationship. He is also not causing your harm, see? It is your perspective that is causing you harm.
Good luck and I hope others will weigh in on this.
When your partner is not interested in what you are – Is this a deal-breaker?