“Someone told me once, in every relationship one person loves the other person more than they are loved. Whoever loves the other person less winds up leaving. Do you think that’s true, P?” my husband, asked.
“No. It’s true in some cases but there is such a thing as two people who are equally committed and devoted to each other and the relationship. You do see this in the world.”
“I’ve heard this same thing another way. What I heard is that one person always loved the other person more than they were loved and you ought to make sure you are the one who loves the least. So you don’t get hurt, I guess.”
“But I don’t agree with it. I think whoever loves the most is far better off. For example, I loved the AMF more than he loved me. I don’t know this for sure, I mean how can you know something like that? But if I did love him more than he loved me, I think the reason is because I have gobs of love. He loved me the best he could. He loved me all he had but I just happen to have a freakish amount of love.”
“Yeah. I have love that is limitless (Venus Neptune) where he was in a different circumstance (Venus Saturn). So while I loved him more than he loved me, what difference does it make? How am I harmed?”
“I don’t know.”
“Well I don’t think I was harmed at all. I figure the more love you have to give, the more love you feel, the better off you are. I don’t see how I could be better off loving less. This is my position, though I realize it may not be practical for others.”
What have you heard about imbalance of love in relationship and how do you feel about it?