I’m in the process of losing someone who has been a tremendous help and support to me over the last few years. The loss is staggering. The reason is because this person is truly kind-hearted.
He’s a lot of other things too. Smart, studied, insightful. He carries with him, reams of information. He’s like a gigantic filing cabinet of knowledge and while this is rare to find, it’s his heart that floors me. He simply cares about people – all people. Facing this loss has made me utterly aware of rare this quality is.
I’ve spoken with a number of people about this over the last couple weeks. People help you, but they have an agenda. They want be seen helping. They do it to glorify themselves in some way. Everything is intended to reflect back on the individual or raise their profile in some way. This is very different than love and giving because you are simply a loving, giving person.
I’m not meaning to be impractical here. I know that people have things they have to do. They have jobs and families and all kinds of commitments. They can’t just be out there being do-gooders all day. But there is still time to be kind, if you happen to be bent that way.
I’m sure about this because there is an old man who lives next door to us. The other morning, I woke up and found him outside tilling our garden. By hand. He saw this need and decided to fill it, even though I’m sure he was sore from tilling his own garden the day before. He’s a nice man; nothing more and nothing less
I’ve come to understand, the concept of a true kind heart and the actions one would take are utterly out of the realm of some people. For example, you do something or you give something and the person(s) observing you, make up a reason why you did the thing. You did it to get attentions for example; or some kind of accolade. But that’s not the reason a kind-hearted person is kind.
Recently, I was contacted by the woman who in my mind, really helped me launch this site back in 2005. It was called ElsaElsa – The Advice Blog back then. I used to ask people to link the site. She was pretty much, the only person who responded.
It was crazy. This one woman (a Gemini with a Scorpio moon), repeatedly took the time to help me and do you know she never asked me for even one thing in return?
She’s got a business herself now. She’ doing great. It’s like it’s all come back to her.
Back on topic, what’s happened to straight up “kind-heartedness” in our world? Why is this so rare? People are true dicks, a lot of the time. They’re so harsh.
I don’t think this is going to get a person very far over time. And don’t get me wrong. I know I am a cutting person. I know my speech; my way of communicating is sharp-edged. But at the core of my being, I truly and quite completely want to do the right thing and the best thing and the most helpful thing, every day. Further, I’ve been this way since I was born.
It’s not say I don’t make mistakes or misjudge things. I make mistakes all the time.
To wrap this up, I’ve been telling people that while losing access to this man’s body of knowledge is painful, the loss is nothing when compared to being seeing a true kind-hearted person walk out the door. Especially now, when our world and the people in it have become so calculating.
I want to add one thing. I look at this man’s chart and I can’t see his kind heart. He’s a Sagittarius with a Virgo moon. I could say this would make him open, generous and helpful but he could also be inflated and critical, yes?
You’ve got to choose who and what you’re going to be; and how you’re going to behave.
What does it mean to be kind-hearted?