Of all the Venuses capable of a madonna/whore complex, this is the one that stands out. The 2nd earth Venus after Taurus, this Venus likes to be sensual, but only after careful consideration of her suitors. So if you love a man with Venus in Virgo, be like Melanie Griffith in “Working Girl”… have a “head for business, and a bod for sin”. This man’s Venus in Virgo falls in love with brains first, then the earthy sensuality can follow. He has what I like to call “well banked fires”.
Venus gets such a bad rap when in Virgo, I just feel I have to point out the good. Yes, she can be picky. Ok. But let’s talk about what discrimination gets you! If a man with Venus in Virgo finds you attractive, it says a lot! He likes your mind, and he wants to have sex with it.
This Venus is not fussy or prudish when she feels truly at home and safe. Like all the earth Venuses, the sensuality is there, and Virgo Venus brings refinement to the more gluttonous appetite of Taurus. A man with Venus in Virgo doesn’t like ostentatious displays of sexuality, he likes subtlety, even a little bit of mind games is just fine with him! He also appreciates sensuality accompanied by good hygiene. In this case, cleanliness is next to godliness, but is that so hard?
As far as how he spends his money, he’s going to need to see some purpose and usefulness to what he purchases. This is not a Venus prone to impulsive spending, so if you want a man who will buy you that shiny bauble…. uh— no. He’d be more inclined to ask you WHY you NEED that, instead of understanding the idea of you want what you want just because you want it. That doesn’t make sense to him! If you want something with this man, appeal to his sense of logic. If he finds that a purchase is practical and has purpose, he’s likely to buy the best there is. More than likely, he owns tools, and they are well kept and of very good quality. So if he finds a reason to buy that bauble for you, it’s not going to be the cheap version.
If you’re a well organized woman in daily life, he’ll respect you and be more than likely glad to have your assistance and input into his life as well. Be aware that if he seems “checked out” or removed, it’s because Venus in Virgo needs to retreat into its thoughts periodically. That’s how this Venus recharges. I suppose this is one of the reasons why Venus in Virgo is sometimes labeled “cold” but once you understand the signs that he’s gone into his mind and needs a few minutes to himself, the reward is rich. Venus in Virgo appreciates the fine art of “understanding” more than any other Venus.
If you love a man with Venus in Virgo, help him. If he’s doing yardwork, pitch in. If he’s cleaning the house, look around and see what you can do. If you’re not the type of person that likes to be a helpmate, it will hinder progress because this is his love language. The companionship of working side-by-side does more to turn him on than sexy lingerie… although after the work is done, and he feels he can relax and unwind, by all means, do the Dance of the 7 Veils.