With Venus squaring Neptune on the midheaven, invariably they have me mixed up with someone and while there are many manifestations, these are the main themes:
1. They think I am a character they have seen in a movie.
The most common projections are Appolonia in The Godfather (peasant virgin Italian girl fantasy), Tita, in Like Water For Chocolate (variation of the same theme plus cooking / mothering) and Vianne Rocher in Chocolat (this one is based on appearance and similar energy combined with the man’s desire to be Johnny Depp).
2. I reject them
I am not interested in the man so they set out to conquer or this one takes the opposite expression, they believe me to be the dominatrix of their dreams.
3. They want to save me
They think they’ve found a diamond in the rough and they set out to rescue me from whatever (poverty, bad manners, whatever they think I have) and polish me up to be their jewel.
4. They want me to save them
Alcoholic or similarly impaired, they think if they marry me I will cure all their ills with the magical elixir I obviously have in copious quantity.
5. Generic girl of their dreams
Unknown origin but I’m HER.
6, 7, and 8, they want a black woman but are scared so get me as surrogate, they want to piss off their parents (usually WASP type) or they actually love me!
I could go on but as you can see all of these imaginings are just that. They have absolutely noting to do with me and the men come up with this stuff in about… oh, 30 seconds or so.
Next thing I know, they’re on their knee promising their undying love and I’m scanning the horizon for the nearest exit, do you blame me?
What’s especially killing is 90% of the time (if not higher) the man does not even like me. There is no me, see?
I am just a HOST for the projection and next up, I will tell you how I feel about this. But first…
How would you feel if this were you? How would you handle it?