Elsa calls Venus- Pluto contacts ‘corpse alerts’ to signify the resurrection of past relationship partners (whatever those relationships may have been), but for some of us it can also signify the resurrection of doubts and insecurities in a current partnership. Any artifice in a relationship’s exchange – false ideas of what’s being given and taken – will re-emerge.
If you overextend yourself to satisfy your partner, out of any fear that what you’re naturally capable of isn’t enough or lovable, this tension and doubt may easily turn to resentment. Do you feel like you give and give and receive little in return? It’s time to look at the root motivation.
On the other hand, you may have been lying to yourself or your partner about what it is you want from the relationship. These insecurities may bubble up to the surface at this time as well. They may find a particularly forceful expression now, either externally or internally. If you push the expression down, refuse to feel the things you don’t want to feel – the anxiety, fear, unworthiness all gets projected outward, onto your partner and our environment. We must remember that this bottling-up ultimately only magnifies the unwanted feelings. Repression may take you to the end of your rope here – avoid tearful, dramatic scenes where you demand of your partner the validation you refuse to give yourself.
The question is not, ‘when will I be good enough for you,’ it is ‘when will I be good enough for myself?’. Acceptance ends the plague of insecurities; you are always already enough.