Venus is squaring Pluto right now. I’ve got “trust” on my mind. Can a person who loses your trust ever get it back?
There is a gal in my life; I used to communicate with her quite a bit. I wrote her long emails, told her stories, and shared (personal) pictures with her. I’ve been writing a lot, daily for twenty years. I have to preserve my hands so this was unusual for me in this day and age. I prefer to call.
Clearly, she was “in” with me. Or maybe I was using her. Because I knew if I fed her, the information would be dispersed.
The information was dispersed, as far as I know. But then this gal developed some obsession with me.
I don’t know exactly what happened. These kinds of things are deep and swirling. It’s hard to say when or why they start but eventually, the more I gave her, the more she wanted. I began to feel she was using me as “social currency”.
“What does, Elsa, think?”
“I’ll find out and get back to you…”
That’s one of her common phrases.
This might have been alright, had she transferred the information without adding her own embellishments. But instead it was like I’d hand her a painting…she’d paint on top it and then identify it is mine. “Elsa feels like this…” she said, and actually wrote / recorded in a group email.
I read about myself with an eyebrow raised. It was at that point I realized I was not going to offer her something pure so that she could make it into sausage of a flavor I deplore.
I pulled my horns in. She’s tried to re-engage me ever since.
I see no way forward. I can’t sit down with this gal and explain to her what bothers me, because the information will be mashed, and re-formed into something detestable, then transferred around.
I don’t trust her, but not in the way that word is generally used. I don’t trust her to discern. She’s just not smart enough or she thinks a flamingo is a cow or something, I don’t know.
She keeps trying to put it back the way it was. But I would never invest in her again. How does a story like this end?