My husband does not like how I negotiate things. With Mars in Libra, I try to work with others. I try to be fair. He sees the person he is negotiating something with as being on the opposite side.
Logically speaking, he’s right. But with Mars trining Venus, I’m generally successful at coming up with a deal that everyone is happy with.
This is so important to me, if someone wants to fight back and forth over every dime, I’d probably take it as a sign and walk away. I just don’t like unpleasantness without cause. It literally makes me sick.
My husband and I resolve this by having one or the other of us work a deal for the family. We’re both fully capable of handling any negotiation, so long as we we don’t team up!
Today, I advised a client how she could negotiate with her husband in a way that would be effective. Specifically, I suggested she frame her request in this way:
“I know you care, so….” And then she can state what she wants.
This is a lot better than, “You have to do this, because if you don’t I will feel bad…and blah blah…”
The ability to sell something is one of the best skills you can have at this time. The skill to negotiate is right up there as well.
People like to blame others, that’s for sure. But if you constantly fail to get what you want, it might be your people skills that are lacking.
How do you negotiate? Where is your Mars? Does Mars aspect Venus?