I’m continuing to sort through old content on the site. I ran across a post someone wrote; they’re all excited about a “new man”. I thought to myself, oh no! Because I know that a new man is usually followed by another “new man” and then another and then another and another after that. You can’t tell me you don’t know what I mean.
Today, I look at that and think it’s like being excited about a “new bank”. A new bank with nothing in it, see? Rather than invest in a relationship (or a bank account) that gains value over time, a person is continually going ’round and ’round on the surface. There is very little encouragement out there to stick with a person.
I do remember the thrill of a first date and the hope of what might be possible. I’ve been married a good while now. I am very happy this is the case. I mean, I am happy to the BONE.
I’m writing this because I was talking to someone recently about how people don’t even know how to date anymore, really. How do you find someone who will stay with you, for life?
I am not suggesting that’s for everyone but what if it is for you?
The next day, I spoke with a client who wanted to talked about this exact thing. She’s a young woman who does not want to be in an open relationship. She wants to invest and see the value of her investment grow over time.
I am evaluating all my relationships at this time. I’m prompted to do this for a variety of reasons but in the process I came across a gal who wrote this: “I came in and I knew nobody. I left three years later and I knew nobody.”
Striking, isn’t it? I don’t want that to happen to me. Or if it is happening to me, I want to recognize it and change course.
I decided to figure out who and in what I might be investing for no actual reason. This has been a slow process for me. So very slow.
What do you think of this? How did you feel when you read it?