I had quite a few people contact me about today’s blog post, How Nice Can A Person Be, When They’re Infuriated in combination with yesterday’s newsletter, which you can read here: It’s Your Fault I’m Oversensitive, So Control My Hurt Feelings, I Mean Your Hurt Feelings, Please, Or I’ll Hurt You.
Most of the emails and questions were asking for tips around managing anger and projection. It’s a great topic and want to offer something concise, in response.
First, if you find yourself pissed off and/or disappointed in virtually everyone, there is little doubt you’re seeing yourself out there. Don’t be fooled! If you hate nine people and excuse the tenth, this is mind trick, you’re playing on yourself.
If you’re in this kind of state, it would be best if you could refrain from pulling the trigger. Obviously, you’re hotted up!
One person wrote me after they’d pulled the trigger…if this happens to you, forget your pride. Apologize!
I know it’s tempting to justify every little thing we do. Some would rather go down with the ship then expose a chink in the armor. But there are few things more attractive then a humble apology.
People like humans, okay? That’s why they like this blog. Because I screw up, daily. So if you do go off, just go back and tell the person that’s you’re sorry and you’re trying to work out your obvious mental problem!
But the main thing is this – when you’re angry at the world, or disappointed at the world, this is a PERSONAL problem. And if you can’t resolve it, you’re going to have problems in relationships for the rest of your life.
Who can relate? Who is working on this now?