Regarding those lovesick men, max quotes me:
“Are you aware of men loving women or does it seem otherwise to you?”
Since I am a man and clearly not entitled to an opinion, I cannot say.
I would say that I have occasionally experienced this here alien emotive complex referred to as love. Unpleasant business really.
[‘There’s all this stuff about commitment and my bank account.’]
Now the soldier has told me the same thing more than once. That if he has a choice whether to be in love or not, he is not sure he would choose the love. The first time he said it I was fairly appalled but I have come to understand his feelings and have in fact experienced them myself.
Like when I was driving to go see him the other day when I was pissed off out of my mind. It was just so obvious to me I was in the car hurtling down the highway for one reason and one reason only, I love him. I didn’t want to see him – I was MAD and it is somewhat disturbing to be hijacked in this way.
It is disturbing while simultaneously soothing but it still disturbing and at that point I really saw his point and it’s been helpful. These days I realize the less reactive I am the more I learn and the more a women can learn about men, the easier it is to get along with one of them.
One of the things I have learned is not to be all appalled when the soldier tells me something or obviously he’s not going to tell me anything and that will be my loss.
What have you learned about the opposite sex?